Are you open to reconciliation? The drugs add a whole other level of concern.
I am actually not open to reconciliation with him.... Hindsight 20/20 + my latest findings point to a big sex addiction, LOTS of issues, and him being into "things" I'm not into.
- When we first got together he wanted to do sexual things I was not into (aggressive/full BDSM things). He dismissed it and said that he wasn't really "into" that sort of stuff- he just thought he'd "try."
(but he did have a own of weird "props" that always had me wondering.)
- When I started snooping months ago I found a lot of bookmarks to BDSM websites.
- There are certain things he has said that have always made me feel like he's had a real love/hate relationship with women in general.
- I just got a credit card bill that shows him spending over 200$ at a store that sells those sorts of things- not just a sex shop but a BDSM shop.
- The date of this purchase was a Friday night in our state. He arrives in our state Friday and stays through Sunday so these purchases weren't for him to use with OW. All signs pointing to him "cheating" on OW
- The last night we were together sexually he was pretty vulgar and rough and promptly "dumped" me the next day.
- When OW's mom called she said that WH was a "serial cheater," I think that he actually told OW that he's cheated on me before.
- The STD tests that I found were months before his supposed first fling.
So, he is a serial cheater and into things sexually I'll never be into.
Really seeing that this divorce is for the best.
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