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How do I expose it to her parents? I guess I can get her moms number and have my dad call them. I'm not ready for plan B yet Does she have any social media where she has family? Have you read this? Exposure 101 When can you be ready for Plan B?
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Sounds like youre ready, its just the jumping off that frightens you? It is a leap from which you cant go back, but you have covered all you bases and know what has to be done. I think when you take the plunge, all the doubt will melt away, and you feel better than you have in a long time.
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I'm not sure why you are 'not ready' for Plan B. No one is! It's for your well being. You like being blatantly cheated on? It makes you unattractive and haggard and you will lose your child when they commit you or wear you into nothing.
Plan B doesn't end anything. He can come home any time he likes.
Plan C is the plan most likely to end in divorce - and definite health problems and depression.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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Hate to have to point this out, but if you are the only breadwinner he could ask for both custody AND child support from you.
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No social media. I have no idea who her family is
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I wouldn't say the only breadwinner, I work part time so we make the same amount of money since I'm barely working. If he asks for custody he would still pay child support
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I'm just not sure if exposing it to
Her parents is right. I think it's too late. The divorce will be final in a few weeks and I don't want reconciliation anymore. I do want that relationship to end. Everyone does. It makes me sick thinking about them together and them taking my baby away from me and playing house and my baby calling her mom. How would I get through that if the baby does go with him and his affair?
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Then fight the affair. With exposure and the support of others.
You are a mother. You need to get this done.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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