Some people, like introverts will naturally withdraw from others in order to recharge as they eventually become drained from social interactions. does not matter, if it were happy or sad interactions ---they just need a little break. I


I'm speculating but in your case while you are entering the learning curve to eliminate your AO, he's withdrawing to protect his own soul. He may be an introvert and this is his tendency.

And perhaps this "habit" to withdraw for his own state of peace now feels threatening or even magnified to you given an affair has happened.

Another reason your husband is withdrawing: it's a reflection of the state of marriage. Dr Harley has articles and describes the three states in Lovebusters.

You will benefit most today from eliminating AO.

You have isolated a couple big triggers. Others here are suggesting how to eliminate the Facebook trigger. As far as your husband withdrawing .....


Check out dr Harley's description of the three states of marriage. It will get down to Lovebusters and eliminating Lovebusters. If you can change your state of marriage even if your husband withdraws a bit only to recharge you won't feel threatened if not emotionally withdrawn as a couple.