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Originally Posted By: nique84
4eva....yes my girls love the idea of a brother not understanding how chaotic it would make our lives. I had someone tell me a blended family can be a blessing....I'm personally not interested.

Thanks for letting us know what Dr. Harley had to say.

I just wanted to let you know that you're correct to be not interested in blended families. Blended Families are very, very difficult.


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Originally Posted By: nique84
I had someone tell me a blended family can be a blessing....I'm personally not interested.


Nique, aren't you in a blended family now?

You mentioned that your oldest daughter is not your husbands' - if I am not mistaken...

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You are correct, my oldest is not for my husband.

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Maybe I should have been more specific, I am not interested in the way my H went about creating his blended part of our family. It's not easy, but my oldest daughter was apart of the package. Sounds a little selfish, right? One of the reasons I struggled with the decision.... Ultimately it's up to my H, if he wants to be active in his sons life, he has every right but we won't remain married.

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Originally Posted By: nique84
Maybe I should have been more specific, I am not interested in the way my H went about creating his blended part of our family. It's not easy, but my oldest daughter was apart of the package. Sounds a little selfish, right? One of the reasons I struggled with the decision.... Ultimately it's up to my H, if he wants to be active in his sons life, he has every right but we won't remain married.


You don't sound selfish in the least. You are a WISE person who recognizes a risk when she sees it.


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Originally Posted By: nique84
Dr. Harley discussed the question my H submitted on yesterday's show.

Guess I should have indicated what his suggestion was....
Dr. Harley does not recommend that we inform the kids at this point, as they will want to be in contact with their brother. At some point when they are older we must tell them. I am certain someone will tell them before we do. My daughter is always asking for a brother. Having my kid ask me for something she already has that must be kept secret is driving me crazy. Talk about a trigger

Here's your H's question.
Radio Clip of nique84's H's question


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