...OM has been text messaging my 11 year old daughter saying how pretty she is and if she has a boy in her life. Not sure how to handle that? Or if I'm overreacting? At least her answer was her dad
Thanks for any advice, past month has been very hard for me.
YIKES.
What everyone else said. I would take this
very seriously. He
might just have bad boundaries. But that is downright creepy. Inappropriate at any age, but she's 11 years old. "You're pretty. ...is there a boy in your life?" WTH? Can you imagine saying or texting that to any 11 year old girl you know?
Keep a copy of that text. Keep all texts.
I would call the police like suggested and
talk to your attorney about a restraining order. I would not want any of my children around this at best highly inappropriate person. (At worst, God only knows, and you don't want to find out.)
Just sitting here off the top of my head I thought of 3 people I know who were molested and I found out many years later.
ONE was one of my step daughters from my first marriage and the guy who did it? You guessed it - the mom's boyfriend. I remember one time he came with no warning to pick up the kids to "surprise" her. (Odd since she made no effort to see them on her own.) When he was putting them in the car her "affectionately" rubbed one of them on the back for a second. She is not the one he molested and doesn't remember anything weird about him today. But I remember something about the way he did it gave me the heebie jeebies. I hugged and patted these kids all the time, but there was just something about the way he touched her that set off alarms in my head. I figured I was just paranoid.
I can never look at a person and think THEY would be a pedophile. But we know some of them are. And what better way to gain access to a child than to date her mom? Protect your children.