Did you tell the IG office that you had an email confession of adultery?

Now, you say that someone will be calling back to interview you. What you have told us about your interaction with the IG has varied.

I want to make something clear - the email is between me and him NOT him and his AP.

I did tell them that I have an email in which he confesses. The guy from the IG office told me a Sgt. will call me back and ask me further questions.

I don't know what this means. I thought she was a prostitute? And does this mean you have spoken to other soldiers and they know her? If so, why don't you have her name?

She works in a bar outside of a military base. Typically these women are involved in prostitution. Google "juicy girls South Korea". I saw some texts from her to my husband on his phone, and I know her name - my husband told me that is her bar name. You know how all Asian people have their names and then add an English name for ease of pronunciation. Well, I saw her English name and her picture. Several guys and my husband have gone out to a bar and my husband and her talked. My husband told me many of the guys in his unit know my husband cheated. Obviously the guys who were with him that night know he cheated with her.I know one of the guys who has seen her and he confirmed with me the same name as I saw in this chat. I do not know anyone else in the unit.

I would be sure and give this info to the commander or the IG, whomever interviews you. I would be very surprised if he is leaving you for this woman. I still think he is protecting someone else. You can ask the commander and the IG to investigate and confirm the OW for you.

Agree. Soldiers assigned in Korea almost never divorce their wife over a "juicy girl". Combine that information with your initial post about OW being pregnant and the likelihood of a co-worker is much more likely.

Will do.

He told me she is not pregnant. But in any case, a juicy girl getting pregnant from an American soldier is much more likely because that's what she wants. She wants to get pregnant from an American soldier, because she knows she can keep the guy and marry him. In her case, she knew my husband for 2 months and tried to get pregnant from him on purpose. She thought she would lose him once he came home but my stupid husband does not realize that she is manipulating him. While he is in the US she is seeing other men. This makes much more sense to me because he spent all his deployment money on her - including the BAH and separation pay he was supposed to send me and getting paid more because he is married to me. I am starting to think he is buying out her contract out. That's probably where the money went.

How long does it take for them to contact me back, do you have any idea? Should I call them again tomorrow?

You need to get the facts. It is very unlikely you have anything close to the truth.

So what was the outcome in your case? What do you mean by your last sentence? You mean keep calling the IG or commander for updates?

Yes call for updates.

My circumstance is not yet over. My wife's affair began in Oct 2015. My thread is "My situation"

My husband's affair started around August 2015 - this is what he says but he started acting out like an alien in January this year after I found out about his affair and exposed it to family and friends. I had a feeling however last year that something was wrong but I pushed it to the side thinking he would never do this to me. He completely transformed into a different person when he told me she could be pregnant and had to come back home. The past several times I talked to him on the phone he was angry at me telling me I was bothering him and yelling at me on the phone. Typical wayward behavior! Telling be he is actually very happy and that he loves himself, he acknowledges what he has done is selfish and tells me "but I want to be with her", "but I have very strong feelings for her", "she is my soulmate". I told him this is addiction and lust but he does not listen.

I am sure he already knows this. He knows he is addicted and he already knows he feels lust for her. That is the basis of most romantic relationships.

How did your wife react to the work exposure?

hahah.... well...

she got fired or quit... she moved to another state and stopped talking to every one she ever loved. She has a big dosage of reality right now. She filed for divorce.

But - everyone knows now that I am for my marriage. Everyone knows that I still love my wife and very much want to reconcile. She cannot lie to her family and friends, because I already told them.

She is trapped.

those are the things exposure grants you... Otherwise, she probably still leaves me. I remain quiet and she lies to everyone, tells them I am abusive and what not... blah. Then I am the one trapped.

Very similar to my story, except my WW was able to turn a few people against me despite the facts. (I included her and OM's adulterous emails in my Exposure email). Those Enablers chose to ignore the facts and bought her revisionist history. However, they also admitted to me that WW is a fool for abandoning her family after I proved to them that she was still in contact with OM even though she swore to them she's not.

I'm pretty sure I would have been in the same boat had I just kept quiet and bore it. The timeline may have changed but the end results will probably be the same, with me being blamed as "controlling and abusive" for WW to justify leaving the marriage.

WrestlerChemist, I just read some of your thread. Your wife was furious when you exposed to family and friends. My husband did not seem too upset about it - he just stopped communicating with everyone and kept to himself and the OW. When his mom or friend call him he mentions nothing of the affair. I am not sure what is the right approach - people confronting him or not. His mom told me she does not want to alienate him so she will not talk to him about the OW. When I told family and friends, only his mom and friend contacted him the same day and that's how he realized that I have told them. No one else has contacted him but I made sure he knows who I have contacted. He told me: "You have told such and such person about it". I said nothing. I guess the fact that soldiers in his unit know what he is doing and they just let it happen, gives him a free card to continue with the affair and he thinks it is ok and acceptable. I am about to call the IG for an update and find out why no one has contacted me yet. I have asked my parents and my brother to send him an email asking him to stop the affair but they did not do it. Do you think they should go ahead and do it?

Just remember - if he stops talking to other people, it will require him to get his emotional fixes from this "bar girl" (if it is at all). The thing you have to realize is that this affair is complete and total fantasy to him - its built on lies and likely will not last. The more friends and family know, the more the fantasy becomes reality and begins to crash.

My wife was mad because her addiction was exposed to people she cares about. Melody usually says its comparable to "bringing a lot of people to a crack house, it ruins your high." My wife is still very much wayward... As I am moving through this divorce case, I realize just how wayward she still is.

Do not shrug off Melody's statement - no one gets emotional needs satisfied by a prostitute/bar girl... I am starting to think it could be a woman he works with as well.

Great job planning to follow up with the IG. I know doing all this is hard. Hang in there...