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I made no changes. Last time I changed something I was scolded...so it's copy paste add names sent last night. No response this morning. I sent to head of HR and head over his dept...I have no idea who their individual bosses are.
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WH - 47
Married 2.5yrs
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PA 9-2015 estimate
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WH filed divorce 11-23-2015
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Am I supposed to hear back?
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Am I supposed to hear back? I did not hear anything back from my wife's boss. The VP of HR emailed me back "We will look into it" the HR of her division emailed me back "we will investigate further" The HR of OM's division emailed me back "We would appreciate if you sent no further emails - we are looking into circumstances you brought to our attention."
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Am I supposed to hear back? I did not hear anything back from my wife's boss. The VP of HR emailed me back "We will look into it" the HR of her division emailed me back "we will investigate further" The HR of OM's division emailed me back "We would appreciate if you sent no further emails - we are looking into circumstances you brought to our attention." The HR from his division specifically said: "Thank you for bringing the concerns to our attention. At this time we have taken all actions deemed necessary. We do request that you cease sending any other employee any further correspondence. Should you have any questions please direct all inquiries to me."I responded with this (and I cc'd OM on it): "Thank you for your email. I wanted to write my wife a note and ask her again to end her affair OM but now that I have been asked to cease communications with all company employees and instead communicate just with you, I guess you are saying you wish to be the go between my wife and I. I suppose running interference on behalf of my wife would be consistent with a company that feels it has done "all actions deemed necessary" while, it appears, continuing to enable my wife and OM to continue their adulterous relationship.
I somehow doubt your company really wants to publicly try to prevent a husband from communicating with his wife or go to bat for an interloping boy trying to interfere in someone's marital relationship. That said, I do understand that you are just the messenger assigned to "manage" me and using typical human resource cover up speak. However, out of respect for your request I'll probably cease and desist for a little bit here hoping OM comes to his senses quickly enough."FYI - this email led immediately to my wife filing a TRO violation.
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Wow. WC that is terrible. I have no idea how this will play out...but I hope it doesn't come to a TRO...SCARY!
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WH - 47
Married 2.5yrs
EA 6-2015 estimate
PA 9-2015 estimate
D-day 11-22-2015
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Exposure 1-10-2016
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Wow. WC that is terrible. I have no idea how this will play out...but I hope it doesn't come to a TRO...SCARY! The TRO violation date is set for this Friday - it really is not that big of a deal I have been told. My lawyer has said he is almost certain it will be thrown out. Some of my friends have told me that any lawyer that agrees to file a motion for a TRO violation is a deadbeat and trying to steal my wife's money - because they also know it will probably get thrown out.
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Wow. WC that is terrible. I have no idea how this will play out...but I hope it doesn't come to a TRO...SCARY! IN my state - a Temporary Re staining Order (TRO) is issued with every divorce motion. IT was not like my WW went and got a RO on me.
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WH - 47
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PA 9-2015 estimate
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WH filed divorce 11-23-2015
Exposure 1-10-2016
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IN my state - a Temporary Re staining Order (TRO) is issued with every divorce motion.
IT was not like my WW went and got a RO on me. On our state form, there are a bunch of boxes to check for TRO and various nasty tricks. However, just because you or your lawyer check the boxes, doesn't mean it's going to be granted by the judge. According to my L, it is very difficult to get one to stick unless you have a prior history of domestic violence or made specific threats that can be documented.
Me-BH, 47
Spouse-WW, 47
Married for 18 years
DS, 11
D-Day #1 - November 1998 (7 months after wedding)
False Recovery, 16 years
D-Day #2 - November 2015
WW filed for D - February 2016
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I made no changes. Last time I changed something I was scolded...so it's copy paste add names sent last night. No response this morning. I sent to head of HR and head over his dept...I have no idea who their individual bosses are. Scolded? Really? I told you to expose to the workplace when you first got here and you refused. Posters on your thread have only been giving you MB advice. When you don't listen or answer questions it becomes frustrating when we are trying to help you.
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WH
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Not you...lol....earlier this week Sugar wanted to see my letters so I posted them...she didn't like some of my changes...so this letter...did NOT get changed! No response from their company either...which is disconcerting.
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PA 9-2015 estimate
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Not you...lol....earlier this week Sugar wanted to see my letters so I posted them...she didn't like some of my changes...so this letter...did NOT get changed! No response from their company either...which is disconcerting. You do see why SugarCane was asking that, correct? And why she stayed on you about it, correct?
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Yes..she explained it to me.
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How do you know if they for sure got the letter?
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I don't. I emailed the director of HR and who I think is the boss of their division.
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Work exposure is not just HR director and local boss. Exposure letters must go to the CEO/owner and the board of directors. You do not want the local boss to try to bury this exposure.
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So today was moving day for WH. He came and got his things without incident.
I was not here. My father and brother were here. He showed up alone to move HEAVY items into the truck. Thank goodness my brother was here to help...would've been darn near impossible otherwise.
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WH - 47
Married 2.5yrs
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PA 9-2015 estimate
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Exposure 1-10-2016
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I know this is very sad for you, but you are well rid of him, always.
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His PA 2003-2006
2 kids.
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My IM informed me just now that my WH has blocked her phone number and will no longer "allow" her to act as IM...that I can just put my big girl panties on and either deal with WH or a judge. She tried to text him back and got an error message. Now what? I will NOT be unblocking my email. I will not play the games. I will take the judge given the choices.
NC is no NC.
And I've done good about that since we last posted about it a couple weeks ago. So has my IM.
So now what? Wait til court?
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WH - 47
Married 2.5yrs
EA 6-2015 estimate
PA 9-2015 estimate
D-day 11-22-2015
WH filed divorce 11-23-2015
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He was thankful for IMs all this time...most issues related to the divorce are resolved...but not all...why all of a sudden is the IM no Bueno? Is he mad I wasn't there yesterday for his moving? Did the act of moving out his stuff make it real all of a sudden? What gives..why the control and manipulation now...so close to the end?
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WH - 47
Married 2.5yrs
EA 6-2015 estimate
PA 9-2015 estimate
D-day 11-22-2015
WH filed divorce 11-23-2015
Exposure 1-10-2016
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