You can't demand that he follow the program and exempt yourself.
You are correct. No more demanding change. We can only change ourselves.
If all the heartache isn't enough
We are dealing with heartache. However, it is not due to infidelity and love affairs. Started way before the start of this last job. Our heartache has always been selfish demands, disrespectful judgments, and angry outburst. Never dishonestly, independent behavior, or previously mentioned.
You seem to believe you are entitled to ask your husband to stop behavior that upsets you, but don't believe he has the same right.
Never thought of it as being entitled. I will not be demanding or feeling entitled anymore. Just have decided to work on myself and areas that I can to work on marriage. Rest will be up to spouse.
Was this yours and your H's show?
Radio Clip of str22one & cas98per's Show
Yes this was us at the beginning of the show. I have listened a few times since the airing. Have it on my voice recorder on my cell phone.
Everyone that desires to keep a certain job should not be automatically labeled as cheating. But on this site they always are. ALWAYS.
Well, that is too bad. I did not know that when I asked my husband to consider Marriage Builders and its various resources. I did not realize it was only for people dealing with love affairs and infidelity. Well we have come to the wrong place looking for help. We will continue our journey but continue it elsewhere.
Is your husband welcome to check up on you in any way he desires? Even without your knowledge?
Yes. I have always told him to knock himself out. We share computers, we have a shared passwords sheet that remains on the computer at all times, we share our cell phones and they are never password protected, we look at each finances together, we can go in each other�s purses and wallets. Although hubby says that is one rule he just does not like. We have access to each other rooms although we will ask each other what we are looking for when going through clothes and etc. But never demanded the other stop.
He and the kids go to work with me often and will be going this Friday. Hooray.
When I talked like this, I was in the middle of an affair. Your attitude is very suspicious, and it's no wonder your husband feels insecure.
Sorry that you were in the middle of an affair. This is one subject we keep on the front burner because we both have said it would be a deal breaker. We have promised each other to always work through everything else although it seems to be getting harder.
I don�t think I ever asked you to trust me but have asked my husband to get a grip.
I had to leave a professional PhD-level career.
If either of us had ever had this luxury, dropping my job would be done in a heartbeat. Unfortunately he has always worked in manual labor and I�ve always worked in various secretarial positions. We�ve lived off 12,000 a year before (job change for one or the other at various times before disability) and I will be not help us go backwards.
We already live paycheck to paycheck, have no savings, barely make it during the month and rely heavily on income taxes to catch up the following year. We�ve almost lost our home when we were trying to get him his disability. No way am I going to put us in this position unless fired. I work for a company and do not get paid by my parents.
My husband is my best friend although I have additional important people in my life. Our two kids, a few long-time female friends � one in TN, another in LA, and another in MS. My parents, a couple of siblings, a couple of aunts in TX and LA, and a couple of cousins in LA. All females.
Who do you communicate most with over the internet and on your phone?
Those same people mentioned above is who I communicate with over the telephone including with my spouse. Most times we are there for all those conversation but at times we don�t want to be bothered when the other is on the phone and will go do our own thing in the home.
Over the internet, I communicate with my kiddos as we use yahoo messenger. Other than that it is read, read, read. Oh, I am members of other forums like agingcare, welltrainedmind, creditboards, and this one. All of those places are on our password sheet.
She had an affair herself and is seeing the same signs of anger and secretiveness that she herself did when she was having an affair.
So sorry that you two and others have gone through this. We pray that one day your marriage will be healed and one day ours.