Please tell me anything you can think of that will help me....

After a rocky couple of years, my wife of 12 years told me that we have very little in common and that she needs space... oh, and I have an 8 and 5 year old.

Now I would like to think I am a great husband, but I have a host of issues from drug addiction (although I have been clean for a year), erectile dysfunction (which she has been very patient with), and I coach football for the school that I teach at which consumes a lot of my time in the fall and makes her work load heavier....

After 8 years of letting her body go after childbirth, the last 2 years she has gotten into much better shape and now looks even hotter then when I married her...

Even though I have ED, the viagra makes it work most of the time, but I know that it bothers her that sex is something that she cannot really initiate...

At first I thought affair, but we have always known each others passwords and i have checked her out... i know she is loyal, and she cries all of the time saying that she doesn't know what is wrong with her....

I love her and will do anything to save our marriage and our family, but I need her to feel it for me too....

i feel like i am sinking and there is no one to help me... i am fighting to stay away from the drugs.....

i just dont know how long I can hold on....

A wife 'needing space' is standard talk for someone engaged in an affair.

What kind of snooping have you done? What do you mean when you say you've 'checked her out?'

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