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Joined: Jan 2011
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Joined: Jan 2011
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Hello,
I'm here to get some wisdom about an issue. My wife and I have been married going on 9 years now. Lately, we've been having fights related to money. My wife and I created a budget together in which I thought she was onboard 100%. The issue here recently had to do with our son's birthday. We agreed to set aside $20 in order to throw something simple or buy a toy for him. I had no problem staying within our agreed upon budget agreement.
My wife said today we should eat out and t then get a present for our son. I said ok let's go ahead but we only have $20, do you know where we are going to get some more money to cover dinner? My wife told me you know where we have more money and we need to do this for our son. I said we only have our emergency fund but that is for an emergency.
My wife said I care more about money than our son. I said that's not true but we both agreed on our budget. My wife continued to say similar things and added not to worry about the future because God said not to since he feeds the birds.
I love my son and my wife. I have communicated my frustration. We ended up doing a dinner and drawing from emergency savings. As a result it did not result in a joyous occasion but rather resentments. I feel like it's difficult to continue on. I give in because I care but my wife seems to think my resentment is my problem only and I should get over it. She says when it comes to the kids that she will spend the money and basically it doesn't matter what we agreed to.
I'm bitter and I'm going more resentful every passing day.
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Is there a reason you are not using the Marriage Builders program? I see you have been here since 2011. The policy of joint agreement could have prevented this because you would have negotiated a solution that benefited you both.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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