I'm here Glen1, reading your post atm. I'll come back and edit in some things. Just want you to know I am reading it and someone does care. Someone will try and help. Welcome to marriage builders btw.
<P>-- Added<P>Just curious how her counselor knows of what time frame she's going to do what. How can he/she positively say it could take up to thanksgiving before your wife knows what she wants? That strikes me as "Odd"<P>Either person not knowing whom they want in the situation is all part of being in what we call (fog) here at marriage builders. I am by no means an expert on anything. Just someone trying to lend a helpful ear, and perhaps answer some questions.<P>I can say read, my wife read "Surviving an Affair" A book out there, which I hear is definately worth the Investment. I personally haven't read it. Read other posts as well. Learn the site, and tools available here.<P>There are tons and tons of people here who are more then willing to offer you somewhere to begin, some help, and steps that you can take that will help you as well.<P>It may help you some to understand the (Fog) if you read some of my posts on it. Or questions other people asked me. Again this is just my personal perspective on it. This is what I feel was happening to me. How I ended up dealing with it. Where I learned some things. Ect.<P>Theres plenty of threads out there regardless and plenty of people who are going through and dealing with some of these things right now. Grab some coffee, stay awhile post, and read
<P>I'm just positive someone who's been in your shoes, or is in your shoes will come along, and offer much better advice. I am the (WS) so I'm also kinda clueless about what steps to take as (BS).<P>"BS" Betrayed spouse<BR>"WS" Wayward spouse<BR>------------------<BR>[H] / Aeon Blue<P>My advice is my advice. Take the good, disgard the bad. Do whats right for you. Not because I said it worked for me.<p>[This message has been edited by [H] (edited June 14, 2001).]