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D-day Feb. 2001. Moved out 6 mos ago. Moved into an apartment 4 months ago. At the beginning all of his mail would come to me (our home). Now he changed his address in order to get his mail at his place. Also, opened his own checking account w/ his new address. Did this mean he's not coming home?
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It simply means that at this time he isn't planning to come home.<P>My H moved out, forwarded his mail, opened a new bank account....and 18 months later moved home and had to undo it all.<P>For today, your H maybe serious about not coming home. Time to get your Plan A into gear - there's no promises or guarantees that he'll come home, but at least you'll have a very good chance of saving your marriage if he's at all open to the idea of reconciliation.
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Thanks BR<P>My H does not want to talk about us at all. But we've come a long way since D-day. We've have decent conversations now compared to a couple of months ago when every othe word was a cuss word (me, of course). The only thing he has ever said concerning us is "I don't know what will happen in the future." I am not comforted by those words. It seems like he goes out of his way not to give me any hope. I don't even want to ask because I am afraid of his answer.
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It's so hard to know. My H moved out for 9 months and he also changed his mail address, got his own checking account, changed our financial accounts so that I couldn't withdraw money w/o his signature, etc. <P>We did end up back together after his affair with my ex best friend. It was very hard but we have come a long way. This all happened almost 6 years ago, but he lied until this June when I found out that it was PA, including IN MY BED which really, really hurts.<P>It's hard to know what people are thinking or feeling. I do know it was very hard to be separated but it did save our marriage. Good luck
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Mmmmm? <P>To me, it sounds like he doesn't want you knowing his comings and goings, who is sending him mail, and what he is spending his money on... for now. I don't believe it means he is not coming home again. Keep the faith! Read all the Harley stuff and see how to Plan A. (How to walk in God's love and trust God regarding your marriage--to me, that's basically Plan A in a nut.) My prayers are with you. Try not to be afraid and worry because it robs your faith!
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