Hey everyone!
I hope everyone is doing ok and had a good Thanksgiving. I hate that it is so infrequent that I can get on here.<p>I just wanted to let you guys know what was going on. As you might remember, I left with our kids for one month and went to the midwest and spent some time with my family. Giving my H "some space" and time to "think things out!" <p>I have been back for two weeks now and things seem to be going good. He seems like a different person than before I left. He doesn't seem so depressed and unhappy. He now talks about us being able to get back where we once were but knows that it will take time and work. Talking about the future, getting a new house(which we had sold our old house and were looking for new when all this happened and he said he couldn't buy a house with me at that time!), going on a little trip this summer just the two of us etc.<p>So I feel good but am still looking over my shoulder so to speak. In fact last night he had a basketball game(he's a coach) and then had togo in to the office(which is nothing new) and after he called from the gym and said he was headed to the office I freaked out. I got my girls up out of bed(INSANE!) and threw them in the car at 11pm(DOUBLE INSANITY) and headed down the street to do a drive by! I got a little ways and decided that I was being riduculous and turned around. Am I nuts or what!?!?! THere has been no indication of anything going on.<p>I sat down then and read some of SAA the reconciliation part. Do you think I should tell him what I almost did and what I was feeling? I fiGure I probably should in re: to total honesty but I wanted to get some feedback. <p>Thanks guys!---KID

Hey KID...<p>(C A L I here)....<p>No...I don't think you have to tell him EXACTLY what you did...<p>...however...at sometime you might want to discuss your insecurities...<p>...remember to use 'I' statements. "When ............... happens, I feel ..............." instead of "When you do ............. it makes me feel .....<p>...try to avoid it sounding like blame or judgment....<p>Glad [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] things sound good for the two of you...

Hi KID,
Well, your instincts held you back from confessing this to your husband for a reason. <p>I'm so glad you turned around and took the kids back home to bed. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] I think your insecurities did get the best of you and personally, I believe that is where God comes in. You know, when we are being tormented in our own minds and can't get our thoughts under control soon enough?<p>It's also a time to pray for the situation, for our husbands, for their safety, for God to deliver them from temptation and for God to deliver US from temptation to embrace WORRY and FEAR and DOUBT (all the enemies of our faith)...<p>I believe CALI is right that maybe asking for more reassurance from your H could help your insecurities. I think it was good that he called you on his way to the office. Did you consider calling him once he got to the office or would that have annoyed him? Did he come home within a decent timeframe? Did everything work out? I hope so!<p>[ November 29, 2001: Message edited by: BINthereDUNthat ]</p>

^^^bump^^^<p>anybody have anything else for KID?<p>Hope you are doing well, KID...thinking about you.