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Percentage of Time Apart
#2956965 03/26/03 09:16 AM
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I was thinking, and maybe thinking a little too much. I have been married for about 57 months. Of those 57 months, almost 7 months have been spent apart now, which comes out to 12.3 percent. That's a lot!! I realize that I have not been married long, but when you look at it like that it's an eye opener. Anyone else do silly things like that?

Have a good day.

-Luki (bored at work today...)

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Luki,

Ack. My percentage of being with my H over the last five years is more 35-40%. Then you factor in sleep, child, work, etc. Even when he was home, we only got a sitter and went on "dates" about once every two or three weeks. So the time the two of us spent alone doing things we enjoyed together was probably under 1%. And I wonder why we've had problems?

Next month we will start to live in the same house, every day, for at least four years. Which thrills and terrifies me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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Luki,

and I thought I was the only one who did these crazy things. It would be hard to figure it out after 10 yrs of M for me but I'm always doing these kinds of things.
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Depends on when you start the clock...if it is start of affair it is close to 40%....OUCH!!!
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It's interesting how numbers can put things in perspective. No where to hide from the hard truth. If I count the amount of time spent living a lie, that comes out to a little more than 25 percent for me. I can only speak for myself when I say that is too much for me to consider a reconciliation. Too much pain and lies for me to deal with anymore. Sorry to be so anti-recon, but that's how I feel about my situation.

From now on, I am going to calculate the days since I became a human being again. That's worth it! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

-Luki.

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