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Re: Can't get wife to admit A
#2985216 11/05/03 05:38 PM
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Good news! Wife has now admitted that an EA did occur. I took someones advice and left a copy of Emotional Affairs lying around the house. She actually read it and opened the conversation with this after work today! We talked about the article and the result was her admitting the EA component of what had happened. I know that there was also a PA side to this, but it will likely take her a lot longer to admit that, if at all. I think the fact that I was very receptive and non-judgemental when I was listening was a huge factor in this, and I thanked her for her honesty. I'm not out of the woods yet, but things are looking good.

I thank everyone for thier advice and I'll keep you posted.
Re: Can't get wife to admit A
#2985217 11/05/03 06:13 PM
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Riped,
That's good news. Well...you know what I mean! It's good that she has taken a step in your direction by admitting to the EA. And yes it may take a long time for her to admit to the PA portion. Took my W 18 months. She finally realized that Recovery couldn't really start until the entire truth was out on the table.
I think the more you show her by actions not words that you have no intention of leaving M she may feel comfortable enough to discuss with you. But again she needs to know that unless entire truth is ther it's a False Recovery that can be fail.
Re: Can't get wife to admit A
#2985218 11/05/03 07:45 PM
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Excellent! By being receptive and non-judgemental you achieved a great part of your goal. Now don't pressure her anymore but do let her know that when she is ready to talk that you are there for her.
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