Lex:<P>Hey! How's it going? You know I've backed way off my W and have been lettung her initiate contact with me. I've still been doing nice Plan A things around the house when I'm there and taking good care of my step-daughter when I can. W hasn't called me much lately... Just when she needs something, mostly, but we have had a few "regular" conversations as well. I've not said much at all about her and OM, or us trying to work things out... too much pressure and LB... Anyway, she seems more than ever going forward with him... and seems very much to be moving away from me. I don't know what my question is other than what do you make of this? It looks bad, but I don't know what else to do but to let it run its course... I know that trying to interfere will just backfire... It is so frustrating just sitting back and doing nothing but I've made it abundantly clear in the past that I want it to stop and she's made it clear that she doesn't want to do that. I've still got some Plan A left in me but it's certainly starting to deplete my reserves...<P>Thanks for your insights,<BR>zen

So sorry Zen.<BR>I don't think I have any good advice for you. <BR>I don't know how you attract that attention back to you.<P>Anybody out there have success plan Aing when they don't pay attention?

zen,<BR>I hesitate to even answer here... I HOPE you get some more feedback.. just stay the course. <P>My H came by this afternoon - just for an hour - while my nephew cut the grass. I was so sweet, pleasant, I looked great (he noticed ), but I felt like a fool and and a little disappionted after he left. Why? not because he was rude or hurtful or anything, but just because I didn't get the responses I was hoping for (expectations). I was a little braver than usual this time, saying a little more, a little more cheerful, plus I walked in when he was changing his shirt hehe.... but I knew not to expect anything... but I still hurt and felt foolish and hopeless when he left. Oh welll.. no LB's and I hope it did really make an impact along the way.... only time will tell....<P>You know, if you've kept up with Miss Priss, her H seems to be coming toward her now, since time has passed, and she has been Plan A'ing, and seems to be moving on with her life - H seems to notice and be feeling left out. manipulation? no, but simply becoming the best person we can, and loving our WS enough to show it.