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I�m wondering if anyone can shed some light for me - I�ve read through all the books and many posts but I have not found exactly what I am looking for so I hope this is okay to post.
I understand that by using the MB principles that it will restore romantic love into my marriage. I have made the assumption that when you are in love with your spouse that it will invoke feelings of love, desire, physical and sexual attraction, lust etc am I correct in making that assumption or not? Is lust and sexual desire something separate to romantic love that is either there or not there? And I�m not talking about desiring sex out of a love/closeness feeling, I mean desiring sex because your spouse �does it for you� more than anyone else. I�m assuming all these feeling are linked but curious as to other people�s experiences and opinions.
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I�m wondering if anyone can shed some light for me - I�ve read through all the books and many posts but I have not found exactly what I am looking for so I hope this is okay to post.
I understand that by using the MB principles that it will restore romantic love into my marriage. I have made the assumption that when you are in love with your spouse that it will invoke feelings of love, desire, physical and sexual attraction, lust etc am I correct in making that assumption or not? Is lust and sexual desire something separate to romantic love that is either there or not there? And I�m not talking about desiring sex out of a love/closeness feeling, I mean desiring sex because your spouse �does it for you� more than anyone else. I�m assuming all these feeling are linked but curious as to other people�s experiences and opinions. Yes, that is correct. When one is in love, they have sexual desire for their partner.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I�m wondering if anyone can shed some light for me - I�ve read through all the books and many posts but I have not found exactly what I am looking for so I hope this is okay to post.
I understand that by using the MB principles that it will restore romantic love into my marriage. I have made the assumption that when you are in love with your spouse that it will invoke feelings of love, desire, physical and sexual attraction, lust etc am I correct in making that assumption or not? Is lust and sexual desire something separate to romantic love that is either there or not there? And I�m not talking about desiring sex out of a love/closeness feeling, I mean desiring sex because your spouse �does it for you� more than anyone else. I�m assuming all these feeling are linked but curious as to other people�s experiences and opinions. Yes, that is correct. When one is in love, they have sexual desire for their partner. But is the desire because the spouse "does it for you" or is it out of love/closeness?
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I�m wondering if anyone can shed some light for me - I�ve read through all the books and many posts but I have not found exactly what I am looking for so I hope this is okay to post.
I understand that by using the MB principles that it will restore romantic love into my marriage. I have made the assumption that when you are in love with your spouse that it will invoke feelings of love, desire, physical and sexual attraction, lust etc am I correct in making that assumption or not? Is lust and sexual desire something separate to romantic love that is either there or not there? And I�m not talking about desiring sex out of a love/closeness feeling, I mean desiring sex because your spouse �does it for you� more than anyone else. I�m assuming all these feeling are linked but curious as to other people�s experiences and opinions. Yes, that is correct. When one is in love, they have sexual desire for their partner. But is the desire because the spouse "does it for you" or is it out of love/closeness? It's both. Women need 2 things to feel desire, an emotional attachment and the prospect of enjoyment. Most women no longer want to have sex if the former is not there.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I would think like anything else if you’re in love with your spouse you’d be motivated to find solutions to physical problems as they happen. But I remember for me when my ENs were neglected I got depressed and overwhelmed and it took me forever to motivate myself to get medical things addressed.
Me 40, OD 18 and YD 13
Married 15 years, Divorced 10/2010
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