Gname please don't assume your wife is telling you the truth. This is too important. Spend an hour with a reputable immigration lawyer and get the facts, find out what options you have.

Thank you living_well. I am fine with my immigration status. She may be in trouble. She mentioned to me this morning that she will have a week to marry her AP to be in this country. She has told the kids that otherwise, she did not plan to marry him. She is manipulating kids now.


Another interesting thing - I asked her y'day. Do you still love me? Her answer is yes. I loved you all along.

Thank you for sharing this Brian. This absolutely makes sense. As currently under the same roof, she walks up to me to talk about the kids' plan. Without knowing the concept above, I told her to agree with the kids and move forward with any activity they like.

Hello Melody and Brian - I quickly wanted to update that my D was registered in court on Dec 5. My WS will receive the notification this week. I have an indoor and outdoor camera installed at home for kids' safety. I was looking through the camera to sort the fight between the two girls (10 & 13) and came across a very interesting conversation. My WS and her AP was having a major fight over the phone. She was yelling top of her lungs and lashing out at her AP for now showing the commitments needed. It happened over this weekend when I and my kids were not at home. Honestly, I enjoyed the yelling/shouting, etc. Subsequently, she picked a fight with my elder daughter who called her lier, etc.

I was certainly moved by the misery she is in now, so talked to her this morning and advised her to take wise decision going forward in life. She started crying. I further hugged her told nothing further but make wise decisions in life. After that, I learned from a friend who is also her office colleague that she was having lunch with her AP. .

When will she be moving out?

It will be dependent on how long the divorce process takes. I am noticing shifting positing in terms of what she wants and not. The biggest issue we have to resolve is not letting her AP come close to my girls.

She is very vocal that she will not move out unless papers are signed.

I am targeting no more that 6 months at this time. Her AP divorce was dragged for 18 months.

G'Day Melody and all other support members - sorry for being incommunicado for a while.

Just a quick update. My divorce got finalized on Dec 8, 2020. She stayed this home all throughout. Lawyers managed everything which now stands at 50:50. I am keeping the current home.

She also gets kids 50% but they have told her in no uncertain terms about not going or seeing the face of the other guy (also my ex-friend now). BTW she also married him on 12/14/2020 in court. Yes, you read it right - within a week. She came back this home and now packing her stuff and will likely leave soon after Christmas. Kids vehemently opposed but she had her own mind. I virtually had no communication with my ex for almost a year as it mostly resulted in an unpleasant argument.

My girls (14 and 11 now) are mostly fine. Elder one behaves with some maturity and talks to her Mumma mostly ok. The younger one has mostly distanced herself from her Mumma and invariably ends up saying lots of things which her mother sometimes fights back. She also admitted to the kids that her affair was going on for the past 4-5 years.

She is also working hard to reestablish her social contact. Friends are vacillating and confused about keeping or dropping the friendship with her. She is forcing herself everywhere by going the extra mile.

A new chapter will start for us hopefully post Christmas.

Thank you for all your support!

Glad to hear from you. I have been wondering how things turned out for you. Stay the Course to be a good role model for your children, as their only sane parent.