I feel kind of stupid for this, but here goes. My wife and I have been married for nearly two years and recently she has been acting, in a word, "spacey". She has begun corresponding with a guy via email. Now, I am the most understanding and supportive husband you can imagine. I don't "get jealous" of this kind of thing. Until recently.<P>Let me lay some groundwork here:<P>My wife is very attractive and she works in a mall and guys are always telling her so. You know the kind of stuff I mean, "Oh I wish you weren't married!" -stuff like that.<BR>Like I said, this is cool with me. I've said stuff like that too. I trust her, it'sno big deal. Sometimes we joke and I pretend to be jealous, "Hey HEY!" I'll say to her. "That's it! We're moving!" Okay? Now, I always tell her how beautiful she looks (sometimes I say "hot" or "pretty" -you get the idea). So it's not like I don't compliment her (and it isn't just her looks either, I'm just trying to establish my mind-set in the most basic way.<BR> <BR>Anyway, she starts corresponding with this guy. He's into comic books and she is on the bulletin boards online talking comics and stuff and she starts talking to this guy. But here is what is bugging me. She hasn't told him she's married and she emailed two pictures of herself to him. Now I said, "For what?" She told me to relax, it doesn't mean anything, she said that she's just being herself and if you are friends with someone, why shouldn't they know what you look like?<P>Well, here comes the "spacey" part of her thinking: I read one of her picture emails (it was in the deleted bin) In it she said that she had recruited a minion to take the pictures of her the other day.<P>A "minion".<P>I was f*cking pissed off royally. I mean, here I am, totally supportive, cool dude, unjealous and passionately into my wife. And she felt that it was appropriate to lie to this guy. Lie about a husband who is 110% there for her in every way possible. I don't drink, smoke, or use drugs. I have raisedmy voice twice to her in five years and only after she badgered me for an hour. <P>So why not mention me? I tell you what I think; Because she wants to flirt and that would ruin things (in my mind anyway). I was, in a word, massively dissappointed with her and hurt. I felt that she wasn't proud enough of me to tell this guy that *her husband* shot this. How lame is that?<P>Then I tell her I'm pissed about this email crap, and she says that she's a free spirit and that to interact with people other than me is normal and it's her just being her. She told me that just because she is interested in a person and that person is male, that it doesn't mean that she's going to leave her husband and go live with the guy. She said that whatever artery the jealous blood is flowing through, needs to be tied off. She asked if I wanted her to stop and I said I'm not that kind of guy to tell her what to do.<P>Well, what I did without her knowledge is<BR>I re-sent the letter with the word "minion" changed to "my husband" without her knowing.<BR>I know it was REALLY dumb to do that, but I don't know how to react to this, and that "minion" thing really REALLY made me feel hurt/angry/insulted. The guy replied with the usual "oh, why do you have to be married?" ----And I deleted it. Hopefully he will assume the usual, "okay this is no fun any more" and will stop emailing. Or, hopefully, my wife will continue to email but he will become aloof without being so crass & uncool as to mention her being married. And it will just stop.<P>Yeah, just when you thought I couldn't be a bigger [censored]...so what do you think of all this?<P> <P> <P>
