There are a lot of issues that my husband and I are dealing with. 95% of them deal with his ex and his two kids. My husband is a wonderful person. He is truly the angel Go sent to me. My problem is that for the six months that we have been married we are no longer making up for where the other is weak. Since I make in a week, what he makes in a month (after child support and insurance for his kids) he and I both are very unhappy. We both feel like the husband should be the breadwinner. I told him this before I married him.<P>I just graduated from college and he is still in school. I am going back to school in the winter term. I hate cleaning, but he like to have a clean house. So I suggested that I work and go to school and he take care of the home until he can finsih with school. He hated this idea, but our home is now being neglected. When i talk to him about something, I try to be as getle as I can, but we usually argue because he is offended by what I have said. For example him staying home to clean. I know that I can do it because I only work three days week, but we would not miss the money that makes from working if he stayed home. And, I hate doing it. I can't talk to him about anything without him becoming defensive. No matter how I say it, he gets upset.<P>Can the two of us ever be a team with all the extra things from his past in our way? His kids are a major source of tension because I always feel like I am giving more to our relationship than he is. What it seems that we have been doing unintentionally is not meeting one another's needs because our need is not being met. I know that it is not fair but when he won't clean, I won't have sex (this is a totally seperate issue though, I have no desire even if he does), so he won't talk to me, on and on. CAn we be a team? If so, How exactly can we do that? (I am not having sex because I have not had a desire to for months, even if he met my needs the desire would still be gone.)