I dont usually visit here. If you want to find out about my problems please search in recovery.

I was praying with an old minister friend of my fathers and he added something that I never thought of...

He prayed that God would place a hedge of thorns around my H that would make him undesirable to other women.

I have earnestly added this to my prayers and would like a prayer chain to do this for me.

My kids(4) are already giving him a cold shoulder because of his actions and at one time they meant the entire world to him, Living at his mom's must be extremely difficult for him and he knows he cant come home unless he faces God and his addictions.

Please add this to your prayer list and any other prayer chain that you are involved in. I know that God is the only answer for my Husband.

I will certainly pray for you and your marriage.

Standing in prayer with you. Also add that the hedge of thorns would keep anything that is not of God away from him!!

sunrise1,
I believe that we must be very careful of praying negative prayers for people. I was a bit hesitant to write this reply, but I felt I should.
Prayers that receive answers are based on God's promises. I doubt if there are any promises in the Bible that could be applied to this particular type of prayer. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
Even if God were to answer your prayers, and make him undesirable to other women, this will not solve your primary problems; it does not mean the man will love and cherish his own wife or spend time with his children. The least desirable of men have wild fantasies about women who are not necessarily their wives. In his heart, this man finds other women desirable, and his failure to attract them can only make him try harder, not love you more. He did not become a WS because other women found him desirable, but because he wrongly believed the grass is greener on the other side.
Have you considered instead to ask that God will fill his heart with love for his wife and kids? That God will deliver him from the deception in which he is? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
It would also be helpful to ask God to show you where you may have contributed to the problems, and for wisdom to correct them.
Using prayers to control or inflict pain on people should be rarely and very carefully done, lest we become guilty of charismatic witchcraft.

I have to agree with the last post. As angry as I am I can't even find it acceptable to pray anything negative about the OW in my case. I could pray for a hedge of PROTECTION around my H, but unless he himself is willing to change, what would be the point of others finding him unattractive? Obviously I am not looking any better to him just because of that. Circumstances are not the problem here. I will lift you and your H up in prayer. K

I'm sorry I disagree with the last two posts. What she is praying is not negative against the OW and it's not against God's word because God would not want any other woman to find her husband desireable in the context that we are talking desireable. She stated that they added this to her prayer so her prayer is not limited to just this. As such if this is part of a prayer which includes the other matters that both of you mentioned then it's a well rounded prayer. She is not praying anything negative or bad towards anyone else she is just asking the Lord to stop the attraction. I prayed that same prayer along with many other things I added to my prayer. I prayed that they find each other repulsive because of the sinful act they were comitting and I prayed that my husband would come back to his senses as the Prodigal son did. I only prayed those prayers after I asked God to reveal to me and change me in the areas that I needed changing.

<small>[ November 04, 2002, 01:12 PM: Message edited by: pain and faith ]</small>

Pain, please don't apologize for disagreeing. I think that I was looking at it a bit differently than you did. I understand what you are saying and you are right. I was taking it too far, I think. Please forgive me for being wishy washy here and of little help to the original question. I am still having a tendency to overthink some things and react rather emotionally to others. Kelli