Every Wed. we are to pray and fast for one another. Every Weds we can check in and let everyone know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better.

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us. If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.

Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: cajunky, Ezra, Willgetthruthis, Godisincontrol, Natasha79, JohnC, c++_guy, Wallace, relady, steadfast and committed, morriggs, lupolady, stillwaiting, Broken Hearted, PasDeDeux, hopeful_person, GinnyF, justpeachy, cry2much, SNL, LostAgain (Dave&April), Dodger, gloriachu, LoveNcare, JMF, WEN, NiteHawk, Absurd, LetSTry, AgainsttheWind, cemmerson, getting better, kellidiane, Terrified, BeeLee, idostylin, Resilient, thiscantbehappening, day by day, Jloves, broken x3, Sue with Hope, sunrise1, shepette, Malc, Faithfulwife, timbo-e, Angelia, FeelingAllAlone, broken_joe, dopey, awake, truly a friend, Is it to late, stilltryingtosaveit, landslide, GODBLESSU, vega, LoyalWarrior, janna-m-r, ferbie, epiphOny, simmy, cajeanie, d_rose, lost_lonely, briank4775, mayflower, Caged_Bird, LunaDove, goldielocks109, darwud, Mrs. darwud, adamv, Army Hubby, Gail (mojodiva)& Shane, bonnie five & H, TryingToKeepHope, Hopeful98, lghoping, SoTired (Mike & Trish), evega, Douglas and Kirsi Nielson, Jessicafl27, kimmy2, auntielala, weezy8550, miserynmissouri, STBXWife, sealfan, Jen Brown, LunaDove, SMIAJ, cinderella, day by day, GreggC, trying_to_accept, solon, serenitydipity, ilia, lonejrock, anchorhugger, Prayer & Patience, Chikar, Alex6, Hopeforamiracle, fishlady, rookie, Made A Mess of Things, *DeepSigh*,

Prayers Answered: Lupolady(air conditioner), Steadfastandcommitted (first string again), cry2much(sucessful surgery), Movingonwithlife(Wife coming home), WGTT(accepted into mentor program), betrayed and desparate (sucessful cancer surgery), Againstthewind (Got job), Free (Marriage Restoration begun ), cajunky (wife not engaged & did something with family, told me she loved me), Stillwaiting (neice is o.k.), Stillwaiting(Got to see her husband for 2 hours and his heart seems to have softened), Steadfastandcommitted (wife gave up other man), janna-m-r (Husband came home and wants to try to restore marriage even though he is the BS), tsc (marriage being restored), Faithfulwife (GOT A JOB, Found a house, D is final and got a puppy that “just LOVES me”), d_rose (got a ways to go but we are going there together.), WGTT (WH coming home), GreggC (wife's heart is softening a bit and son asking about things in the Bible and believes in it),

Thank you everyone that prayed with us and also all of you that gave a praise report. Like many of you all, I like to see the praises to answered prayer. It is a blessing to hear how God is working and helping people get through tough times.

<small>[ July 21, 2003, 12:48 PM: Message edited by: steadfast and committed ]</small>

s&c and lady,

Just wanted to check in with you this week and let all the others here know that I am praying for them. The list is growing - that's so awesome, and last Wed. I could really feel all of you praying for me. Thanks, again. Last week was a really hard week.

This week I need prayers because I will be sending a Plan B letter to WH and making a decision on filing for D. It seems a little crazy because he has stopped contacting me after the secret about his and OW's new baby was revealed to me. He reportedly told family member who found out and told me that he had kept it a secret and didn't want me to know - he has never called me to tell me or to write to me to tell me.

Our last conversation was by phone in May for my birthday. He called twice, once left me a message and then called again so he could talk to me in person to wish me a Happy Birthday and Happy Mother's Day. What kind of person would do this?

I am sending Plan B letter only because a counselor here told me to follow through with it. I feel very foolish sending one. I would like to know anyone's thoughts on how they dealt with filing for D when the WS didn't but was WAH and how did you reconcile that with your own beliefs about M and God's plan.

I really need prayers this week for my WH, for strength to do what God's will is and to understand what His will is in this whole mess. Because right now, I don't understand it.

Thanks again for posting here S&C and all of you. I really need all of your prayers.
Thanks.
cajeanie

This weeks Praying Husband is a timely one for me. My W is struggling with this one. And I'm sure many of your W's struggle with it as well. Just keep praying for them in this area and remind them how beautiful she is and how wonderfully God has made her. Help her receive it.

HER SEXUALITY

Your wifes sexuality is wrapped up in two things:

1. How she feels about herself
2. How she feels about you

If a woman doesn't feel attractive or sexy, its difficult for her to act like she is.

If you have hurt her in one way or another, even if it was unintentional, it may cause her to withdraw physically in self protection. If it has not been resolved satisfactorily in her soul, it will affect your sexual relationship.

For a woman, sex comes out of affection. She has no desire to be affectionate with a man who makes her feel hurt or neglected. A woman's true sexuality is wrapped up in how loved and valued she feels, and it's very difficult for her to give herself to someone who has made her feel bad.

Trust is also a huge factor in a successful sexual relationship. If either of you has violated the other's trust, pray for complete repentence, forgiveness, and healing. A woman never fully gives her body, mind, and emotions to a man she doesn't trust.

If there has been sexual infidelity in your relationship, you need the prayers and support of strong, qualified, trustworthy Christian counselors who believe in the power of God to transform, renew, and bring total restoration. The betrayal must be fully confessed and thoroughly repented of and forgiveness must be sought. Pray for sexual purity to be restored in the heart of each of you and for fidelity to be an uncompromising way of life. There has to be complete healing in this area before trust returns, and only God can heal you both and restore the trust.

Woman want to be able to share affection with their husband without always having it lead to the sex act. Your wife wants a sense of togetherness- a hug, a kiss, a simple touch, an embrace- that doesn't always lead to physical intimacy. She needs emotional connection, affirmation, and closeness without having to perform.

There is nothing more attractive to a woman than a man who is strong in the Lord. It makes him irresistible. If you want to be more attactive to your wife, grow deeper in the Lord.

PRAYER

LORD, I pray that you would bless (wifes name) today, and especially bless our marriage and our sexual relationship. Help me to be unselfish and understanding towards her. Help her to be unselfish and understanding towards me. Teach us to show affection to one another in ways that keep romance and desire alive between us. Where one of us is more affectionate than the other, balance that out. Help us to remember to touch each other in an affectionate way every day. I pray that how often we come together sexually will be agreeable to both of us.

Show me if I ever hurt her, and help me to apologize in a way that will cause her to forgive me completely. Any time we have an argument or a breakdown of communication, enable us to get over it quickly and come back together physically so no room is made for the devil to work. If ever the fire between us dies into suffocating smoke, I pray that You would clear the air and rekindle the flame.

Help me to always treat my wife with respect and honor and never say anything that would demean her, even in jest. Help me to be considerate of her when she is exhausted or not feeling well. But I also pray that she would understand my sexual needs and be considerate of those as well. Only you can help us fnd that balance.

Make our sexual relationship fulfilling, and enjoyable, freeing, and refreshing for both of us. May our intimacy bond the two of us together and connect our hearts and emotions as well as our bodies. Help us to freely communicate our needs and desires to one another.

Keep our hearts always faithful. Take out of our lives anyone or anything that would cause temptation. Where there has been unfaithfulness in thought or deed on the part of either of us, I pray for full repentance, cleansing, and release from it. Keep us free from anything that would cause us to neglect this vital area of our lives. May our desire always be only for each other. Renew and revitalize our sexual relationship, and make it all You created it to be.

Scripture

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
1 Corinthians 6:18
1 Corinthians 7

cajeanie,

Yep, the list continues to grow, <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> .

Sad that so many people are going through this, but glad that the power of corporate prayer is getting stronger.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I feel very foolish sending one. I would like to know anyone's thoughts on how they dealt with filing for D when the WS didn't but was WAH and how did you reconcile that with your own beliefs about M and God's plan.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I hope there is one thing you will always understand about God's plan; and that is that above all else He desires that you have an intimate relationship with Him. Personally, I believe He puts that even above our marriages.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I really need prayers this week for my WH, for strength to do what God's will is and to understand what His will is in this whole mess. Because right now, I don't understand it.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You know, if I ever fully understood God's plan I wouldn't need faith. And what fun is that? lol.

Be good girl and bless you.

S&C

Oh, one more thing. I've been praying for people with success stories to return and tell theirs. I'd like to ask all of you to pray about the same thing. It seems that so many stories are filled with dispair and void of hope. I have seen an exodus of good people because of it.

I like to lift them up and pray of the return of others with encouraging messages.

See ya'll at the cross.

S&C

As and Steadfast & Committed said these threads tend to be very depressing and full of despair. However my story is no different, I would like to input some very positive things that have happened to me.
A quick review:
My wife left me on 6/6/2003 She said:
" There is no hope, I am tired of trying, and I don't love you any more."
This obviously broke my heart, and tossed me into a great deal of despair. The next morning my wife moved in with a girlfriend and later the next week into her own apartment.
OK enough of the bad stuff. On 6/26 my wife informed me that she was going to go to New York for vacation for the week of the fourth of July. I decided to ask if I could go with her. I explained that she could just drop me off at my family's home, and then go on to her family. I expected a fight, but she said, "Okay". that left us trapped in a car for 10 hours with no one to talk to but each other, I kept conversation light and did not discuss our relationship. She dropped me off and I spent the week with my family. Most of this time was spent on my knees praying to God. I prayed that God would change my heart, into the heart that he wanted me to have, and that he would bring my wife's heart to a place of forgiveness and reconciliation. When she came to pick me up a week later, her heart seemed to have softened. We spent another 10 hours together in the car. Again I Kept the conversation light. When we got home she explained that her apartment was only rented by the week and asked if she could stay on the living-room couch. I said she was more than welcome to come home and could stay in the bedroom and I would stay on the couch. She said that she knew that that would be uncomfortable for me and she would be fine sleeping on the couch. She stayed with me for a week, then moved to the empty apartment just upstairs. She has given me a key to the apartment and told me I am more than welcome to come see her any time. We now we eat dinner almost every night together. Saturday and Sunday she wore her wedding ring for the first time since she left.
I truly see God working to restore our marriage and God is working to restore our Love. We still need a great deal of prayer, and things are by no means fixed, we are still separated, and the divorce papers are still filed ( court date is 8/6/2003 ). But as a word of encouragement, God hears all prayers, and even though he may not answer them in the way you want them answered, it doesn't mean that God did not hear you. He has all the wisdom and power to create all the animals , all the world, and all the universe. So maybe, he might just have a plan for you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

<small>[ July 22, 2003, 05:22 PM: Message edited by: Chikar ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by steadfast and committed:
<strong> It seems that so many stories are filled with dispair and void of hope. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I agree with you!! It's disheartening to always read of pain and despair...........

OK, here is POWER OF PRAYING WOMAN

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His Faith

We choose what we will believe in. SOme people choose to believe in themselves, some in government, some in evil, some in science, some in the newspapers, some in hard work, some in other people, and some in God. Faith is something we can't live without.

Faith is something we can't die without, either. Our faith determines what happens to us after we leave the world. If you have faith in Jesus, you know that your eternal future is secure. That's b/c "the Spirit of Him who raised Jesus from the dead....will also give life to your mortal bodies through His Spirit who dwells in you" (Romans 8:11).

Here's a scary thought: When healing some blind men, Jesus said, "According to your faith let it be for you" (Matt. 9:29). Doesn't that make you want to reevaluate your level of trust in God? The good news is that this means we have a certain amount of control over our lives and can, to some extent, determine how things are going to turn out for us. Our lives don't have to be left up to chance, or allowed to go flapping in the breeze according to whatever wind is blowing at the moment. Our faith will help determine our outcome.

Does your H have times of doubt? If so, your prayers for him to have ever-increasing faith will make a big difference in his life. Even if he doesn't know the Lord, you can still pray for faith to rise in his heart and look for an improvement in his level of peace. There is nothing in your H's life that can't be conquered or positively affected with an added measure of faith in God. Jesus said of any man who has faith to believe in Him, "out of his heart will flow rivers of living water" (John 7:38). That alone can be enough to wash away a lifetime of pain, trouble, fear, sorrow, apathy, hopelessness, failure, and doubt.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">PRAYER:

Lord, I pray that You will give (H's name) an added measure of faith today. Enlarge his ability to believe in You, Your Word, Your promises, Your ways and Your power. Put a longing in His heart to talk with You and hear Your voice. Give him an understanding of what it means to bask in Your presence and not just ask for things. May he seek You, rely totally upon You, be led by You, put You first, and acknowledge YOu in everything he does.

Lord, You've said that "faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God" (Romans 10:17). Feed his soul with Your WOrd so his faith grows big enough to believe that with You all things are possible (Matt. 19:26). Give him unfailing certainty that what You've promised to do, You will do (Romans 4:21). Make his faith a shield of protection. Put it into action to move the mountains in his life. Your Word says, "the just shall live by faith" (Romans 1:17). I pray that he will live the kind of faith-filled life You've called us all to experience. May he know with complete certainty "how great is Your goodness, which You have laid up for those who fear You, whichg You have prepared for those who trust in You" (Psalm 31:19).

SCRIPTURES:
James 1:6-8
Romans 14:23
Galatians 2:20

PLEASE pray for me! I just found out that my H is still with OW. (they had split 4 weeks ago but apparently are back together) They were seen yesterday. She dropped him off at his mom's. She was driving HIS new car. I drove 40 minutes from here to go sign the release on the trade-in car so he can get a car with OW?!?! I HATE all of this and just feel so lost. PLEASE pray for me. Thanks.

H98

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S&C

Thanks for the big hug S&C! I really needed that.

Just want to remind everyone I'm praying for them all today as well. Thanks.

H98

Dear Prayer Warriors,
I don't get to visit the site as often as I'd like lately (it's summer time and our kids keep me busy), but wanted you all to know I've been praying for you and your respective situations.

Please keep praying, studying the word, and being attentive to God's will for your life. Things will get better. If the turmoil in our marriages is what God needed to do to bring us closer to Him, then I trust there will come a day when we can each "count it all joy."

I have a praise report of sorts:
In previous threads I mentioned that my husband has been struggling with his spirituality. I had seen miraculous progress a few weeks back and then Satan reared his head and wrought havoc again.

About a week after that, God's grace began to shine through again. My husband's demeanor began to reflect repentance and a true desire to realign himself with God. I didn't get to write in last week, but I even got him to fast and pray with me for a portion of last Wednesday regarding our marriage and family. God convicted his spirit and my husband began to acknowledge that without God in his life he would be miserable!

This week things are o.k. I am trying to keep riding last week's high note. Through the process I keep coming back to the fact that I must be patient as my husband renews his life in Christ. I so long for the tenderness and romance he used to show me and he just doesn't seem ready to show it yet.

Please keep praying that I can be patient enough for God's will to unfold. I am resting on faith that what is to come in my marriage will be better than it ever was and better than I could imagine. I believe the same for each of you.

Stay blessed,
Prayer & Patience