I have posted here before but not for a while. I went through a painful divorce and now am going thru a break up after reconciling with my ex-husband. I have those I am close with at church keeping me in prayer, but feel I need all I can get. I had prayed that the Lord would speak to my ex husbands heart and soul and to mine as well. Does this break up mean it isn't meant to be? Please pray for me that God guides and directs me down the path he wants for me, and please pray for my peace. I am really having a difficult time and don't see a future for myself without this man I had once been married to.
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Petrie,

I have been wondering what was happening with you.
I am sorrying this is happening.

I don't know everything that has happen to you lately. As you know I have been praying for my marriage for over three years. Things are so much better. We do a lot of things together including going to church. He stays here a lot and we get along great. Prasie God the divorce never happened.

You know how I feel about restoration. We have had many discussions about this subject. I still believe God's way is the only way. I would not have know what God's way was without the Restore and the Rejoice web sites and books. I believe you have the Restore book don't you? If you do go back and read again. Remember there are many testimonies about spouses coming back but the spouse praying for restoration was not ready and they leave again. Petrie I don't know if this is the case with you.

I do remember that when your husband first wanted to work on restoration, you questioned if it is the right thing to do. Remember we must forgive completely for restoration to happen if we are doing it God's way. We must love unconditionally no matter what our spouse is doing. We must welcome them back with open arms and a forgiving heart.

I know you are hurting that is why I am writing this to you. I still hurt many days myself, but my situation has gotten so much better. It is only a matter of time until our marriage will be restored. I have wanted him home since he left 3 and half years ago, but I have to believe that I wasn't ready yet. It takes time for God to do a work in us. If things had went the way I wanted then he may have came home only to leave again.

I am not saying this is the case with you.I am suggesting you go back and reread the restore book and see if there are any of God's principles that you may have not been applying. I do believe he cares for you because he keeps being drawn back to you. Satan has a strong hold on us sometimes and it is hard to get away. It takes time.

I will be praying for you. I know this stuff is not easy. It has been a long hard road for me. I do believe it is going to be worth it. Only God can tell you what road you must travel. I can only help guide you a little based on what God has shown me and what I have lived the past three years.

gentle

Gentle,
You are so right, and I have been feeling like I failed this somehow. I did welcome him back and I forgave him. We began to go to church together and had high hopes of making a union that was stronger than ever. What I initially questioned was my ability to put all the bad things that happened in the past and keep it there. I pray constantly for the Lord to guide me and direct me. Greg has stopped going to church and is now dating a co-worker. I feel that even though he told me, "I will be here for you always" and "I am not going anywhere", he apparently didn't mean it and I thought he did. Because I did believe in him again and trusted him again, I am now struggling and have am having so many emotional problems.

Gentle, I do still love this man, and you are my inspiration to put my trust in the lord no matter how long it takes. When does the hurting stop. I am having such a hard time with the fact that he is so easily moving on and thinks he will find someone better. Can I actually go on knowing I love this man, yet still get into another relationship, or am I doomed to be alone?

God bless
Petrie