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Every Wed. we pray and fast for one another for resolution to our marriages and our lives. Every Wed. we can check in and let our fellow prayer warriors know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better. "For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst." Matt 18:20.

We send out the prayer post on Mondays so everyone has an opportunity to check in and to add their own personal prayer request if they want to/need to. Then on Wed. we can check in, hit the "Post Reply" button, and enter "Amen".

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us. If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.

This week I want to offer up special prayers for LostHusband (Bill), click here, who was in a car accident and was very badly injured. Also, for loyalwarrior, click here, who is going through some very rough times.

Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: -.{176 Prayer Warriors and counting}
cajunky . Ezra . Willgetthruthis . Godisincontrol . Natasha79 . JohnC . NMWBTWBD (Not My Will, But Thy Will Be Done) . Wallace . relady . steadfast and committed . morriggs . lupolady . stillwaiting . Broken Hearted . PasDeDeux . hopeful_person . GinnyF . justpeachy . cry2much . SNL . LostAgain (Dave&April) . Dodger (Rtron) . gloriachu . LoveNcare . JMF . WEN . NiteHawk . Absurd . LetSTry . AgainsttheWind . cemmerson . getting better . kellidiane . Terrified . BeeLee . idostylin . Resilient . thiscantbehappening . day by day . Jloves . broken x3 . Sue with Hope . sunrise1 . shepette . Malc . Faithfulwife . timbo-e . Angelia . FeelingAllAlone . broken_joe .

dopey . awake . trulyafriend . Is it to late? . stilltryingtosaveit . landslide . GODBLESSU . vega . LoyalWarrior . janna-m-r . ferbie . epiphOny . simmy . cajeanie . d_rose . lost_lonely . briank4775 . mayflower . Caged_Bird . LunaDove . goldielocks109 . darwud . Mrs. Darwud . Zuzus Petals . adamv . Army Hubby . Gail (mojodiva) & Shane . bonnie five & H . TryingToKeepHope . Hopeful98 . lghoping . SoTired (Mike & Trish) . evega . Douglas and Kirsi Nielson . Jessicafl27 . kimmy2 . auntielala . weezy8550 . miserynmissouri . STBXWife . sealfan . Jen Brown . SMIAJ . cinderella . GreggC . trying_to_accept . solon . serenitydipity . ilia . lonejrock .

anchorhugger . Prayer & Patience . Chikar . Alex6 . Hopeforamiracle . fishlady . rookie . Made A Mess of Things . *DeepSigh* . boden . new comittment . deeplyhurting . jeff15679 . Bob Castaldi . k57mo . skottyjay (Scott & Melody) . TROD (Tony and Julie) . thisso . ladysheep . hurtmorethanheknows . singleguy . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage . Keesley . recovering_dad . Terrianna . javaContour . BH . Cheryls . cherry log . AD. . Suebee . REJECTED . LoveMyEx . LostHusband . kings kid . kwhittle . vividwhisper . imready2try . staeryn . JoeCM . mike729 . Ridingtherollercoaster . DREslinger . ecpsap . Mr.Miew . Standing_For_M . Alcoholic’s Wife . gentle . Stung by a Bee . maximus1

Blended family girl . Diamonzzz . sctaylor . RichardF . bygraceamfree . butterflie . FinallyLearning . angielt . luke parrish . sadmama . Timeheals . OuchThisHurts . mojo95 . Cherylpa . nvrgvup . Titleist . auto009988 . Hope92 . JLight . Culprit007 and hubby . ddc03 . gfranco . cmj . BabydollDKM . allmyloveforever . skilletsoup .

Prayers Answered/God's Gifts to Us: Since Christmas 2003.

lupolady (moved by her pastor’s sermon – focusing on God) . hurting Promise Keeper (held church in icestorm [pastor had cancelled] another one was saved) . Titleist (W was so suppose to spend the night w/OM, she came home instead) . Standing_For_M (great experience w/kids in Sunday School) . staeryn (Keira Olivia Grace was born Wednesday 14 January 2004 at 1059pm. She weighed 8 lbs and is 20.5 inches long- little bit of light brown hair and a great set of lungs!!) . Faithfulwife (H finally “gets it” that he wasn’t there for his kids) . RichardF (W’s test results came back negative) .

tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (made a promise to God to give me a headache when I am not living His Word – boy does my head hurt ;-) . lupolady ( was a Witness and Testimony to her faith to a woman in the vet’s office) . Steadfastandcommitted (W told OM she would soon be leaving her job, he replied that he guesses he’ll have to start dating) . RichardF (W and him went to a 'marriage weekend' together and have started communicating again) . TTSMM (stood by D in church when she did her first reading ever during her "First Penance" ceremony) . Standing_For_M (H is talking about MC; H is spending nights at the house; received $$ to payoff outstanding bills and bank the remainder) . adamv (talked and prayed the prayer of salvation with his 8yr old son) . finallylearning (has broken ties with the OM) . Steadfast and Committed (MIL left the hospital; his dog was found by the Humane Society) . Standing_For_M (H stayed over for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day; rec'd Christmas gifts for her and her kids and food/groceries from her mom and her job; had great talk with H on phone; H said he told a co-worker a story about when they first dated) . lupolady (broken arm is healed; bought herself a new car) . staeryn (H moving back temporarily to help with their new baby) . sadmama (H is ending A and coming home; her D's pray for the Prayer Warriors) . hopeful98 (R&R in Mexico) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (at Mass, a child was being baptized and my D said, "Look Daddy, another member has just joined God's family; D is doing a reading at her "First Sacrament of Reconciliation" service this Saturday) . Standing_For_M (her & H attended S' holiday concert and had a good time) .


The Power of a Praying Husband
by Stormie Omartian

Chapter Seven - Her Submission

Submission is a choice we make. It’s something each one of us must decide to do. And this decision happens first in the heart. If we don’t decide in our hearts that we are going to willingly submit to whomever it is we need to be submitted to, then we are not truly submitting.
This may be shocking news to you, but an overwhelming majority of wives in my survey said they want to submit to their husbands. They want their husbands to be the head of the home, and they have no desire to usurp that God-given position of leadership. They know what the Bible says in the subject, and discerning wives want to do what God wants because they understand that God’s ways work best.
However, problems often arise in this area because a wife is afraid to submit to her husband for two reasons:
- Reason #1. Her husband thinks submission is only a noun, and he uses it as a weapon.
- Reason #2. Her husband has himself not made the choice in his heart to be fully submitted to God.

…a wife will more easily make the choice to submit to her husband if she knows he has made the choice to submit to the Lord. It will be a sign to her that it is safe to submit to him. And the goal here is to help her, not force her, into proper alignment.

Wives know that after the verse “Wives, submit to your own husbands” (Ephesians 5:22), the Bible says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her” (verse 25)….So while God gives husbands a position of leadership in relationship to his wife, He also requires the price of self-sacrifice from him.

The big question in many women’s minds is, “If I submit myself to my husband, will I become a doormat for him to walk on?” The answer to that question…does he only consider his desires and opinions, to the exclusion of hers?
A wife has a hard time giving her husband the reins to her life if she doesn’t believe she can trust him to have her best interests at heart as he steers the course of their lives together. She has trouble going along with his decisions when he refuses to consider her thoughts, feelings, and insights on the subject. And if she submitted to a male in the past and her trust was violated in some way, it is even more difficult for her to trust now.
On the other hand, a woman will do anything for a man who loves her like Christ loves the church.
Too often people confuse “submit” with “obey”. But they are not the same thing. The Bible give commands about obeying other people only in regard to children and slaves, and in the context of the local church.
Submission means “to submit yourself”. In light of that, when husband demands submission from his wife, it is no longer true submission. And his demands can become intimidating and oppressive, which breeds resentment. When a husband is more interested in his wife’s submission to him than he is in his own submission to God, then submission becomes a tool to hurt and destroy.

My husband has even counseled men…who refused to hear that losing their family was a horrible price to pay for being “right”. How much better it would have been for the husband to submit himself to God’s hand and then pray for his wife to be able to come into proper order.

When we submit to God,….He frees us to become who we’re made to be, within the boundaries of His protection. When a wife submits to her husband, she comes under his covering and protection, and this frees her to become all God created her to be. And trust me, you want that for your wife. Her greatest gifts will prove to be your greatest blessing.
If you feel your wife is not submissive, pray for her to have a submissive heart, first towards God and then toward you. Then ask God to help you love her the way he does. I guarantee that you will see her submission level rise in direct proportion to the unselfish love you exhibit for her. And let her see that you are seeking God for guidance. If she knows that you are asking God to show you the way, she will follow you anywhere.

HE SAYS…BY MICHAEL OMARTIAN
Where males have taken the heavy-handed approach, it has spawned a woman’s movement with justifiable complaints.
Where love, unselfishness, and prayer prevail, the concept of submission is allowed to live an breathe naturally. We men have failed in this area by holding onto notions of special power we think we have because we are men. We are tempted to lord over our wives with this power. Yes, God gives us authority, but He also created us equal with our wives and makes us to be one flesh with them.

Prayer Power
Lord, I submit myself to you this day. Lead me as I lead my family. Help me to make all decisions based on Your revelation and guidance. As I submit my leadership to You, enable (wife’s name) to fully trust that You are leading me. Help her to understand the kind of submission You want from her. Help me to understand the kind of submission You want from me. Enable me to be the leader you want me to be.
Where here are issues over which we disagree, help us to settle them in proper order. I pray that I will allow You, Lord, to be so in control of my life that my wife will be able to freely trust Your Holy Spirit working in me. Help me to love her the way You love me, so that I will gain her complete respect and love. Give her a submissive heart and the faith she needs to trust me to be the spiritual leader in our home. At the same, help us to submit “to one another in the fear of God” (Ephesians 5:21). I know that only You, Lord, can make that perfect balance happen in our lives.
Amen.



Love in Christ,
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The Power of a Praying Wife

Chapter 7 – His Mind

The two most powerful weapons against the attack of lies upon your husband’s mind are the Word of God and Praise. “The Word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart” (Hebrews 4:12). By speaking God’s Word, you can reveal wrong thinking and it will lose its power. If your husband won’t do it for himself, you can speak the Word of God over him, either in his presence or alone in prayer, and see positive results.

Praise is also a powerful tool because God’s presence comes to dwell in our midst when we worship Him. In His presence we find healing and transformation for our lives. You don’t want futile thoughts to darken your husband’s heart. Speak praise to God for your husband’s sound mind, and he’ll be able to think more clearly about what he will andw ill not allow into it.

Depression, rebellion, anger, fear, rejection, hopelessness, loneliness, rebellion, temptation, evil, and many diseases all begin in the mind. These things can control your life unless you take control of your mind first. That’s why God instructs us not to accept as truth everything we think. “I have stretched out My hands all day long to a rebellious people, who walk in a way that is not good, according to their own thoughts” (Isaiah 65:2). He wants us to share His thoughts. “We [who believe] have the mind of Christ” (I Corinthians 2:16). Let’s pray for our husbands to receive the mind of Christ and bring every thought captive under God’s control. Who doesn’t need that?

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Lord, I pray for Your protection on my husband’s mind. Shield him from the lies of the enemy. Help him to clearly discern between Your voice and any other, and show him how to take every thought captive as You have instructed us to do. May he thirst for Your Word and hunger for Your truth so that he can recognize wrong thinking. Give him strength to resist lying thoughts. Remind him that he has the mind of Christ. Where the enemy’s lies have already invaded his thoughts, I push them back by inviting the power of the Holy Spirit to cleanse his mind. Lord, You have given me authority “over all the power of the enemy” (Luke 10:19). By that authority given to me in Jesus Christ, I command all lying spirits away from my husband’s mind. I proclaim that God has given (husband’s name) a sound mind. He will no be tormented with impure, evil, negative, or sinful thoughts, but be transformed by the renewing of his mind, that he may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God (Romans 12:2).

Enable him to “be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might” (Ephesians 6:10). Help him to be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let his requests be made known to You; and may Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, guard his heart and mind through Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:6,7). And finally, whatever things are true, noble, just, pure, lovely, of good report, having virtue, or anything praiseworthy, let him think on these things (Philippians 4:8)

AMEN!!

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Heavenly Father, I lift up every marriage that is in turmoil today. Here our plea for mercy and grace Lord, for the salvation and restoration of all these marriages that so desperately need your devine intervention. Father, open our spiritual eyes and ears, that we may see and hear Your truth, and know that anything else is just folly. Father, set each one of us back on the right path, the path that reveals Your wisdom. That we might apply truth and understanding to our marriages. Father, it all starts with a repentative heart. A heart that is broken before You, a heart that seeks to be obedient. A heart that dies to self, and becomes free in the salvation thru Your Son.

Father, forgive each of us for trying to do it ourselves. Guide us and direct us from this point forward to apply Your love to every area of our lives. Change us Father, mold us and make us into the men and women You want us to be. In Jesus name. Amen

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Again my request is simple. Father please restore what the canker and locust have devoured. Allow the fog that my wife is in to be blown away by your spirit. Give my wife a spirit and heart of repentance and forgiveness. Father help me to be the man you've called me to be and display Christ to my wife and kids through my actions first and words secondly.

Father I pray that you would make the exchange of beauty for ashes for every troubled man and woman out there standing in the gap for their mates. Father strike down the plan of the adversary and restore homes like never before. We thank you that you are a present help in troubled times. Father you are our rock, you are our confidence and our hope. We have no might agianst this great circumstance but our eyes are on you Lord. We thank you in advance for every heart change, act or repentance, forgiveness and restoration. Father we pray that you would guard the heart of every child that is in a home that is in turmoil, these re your little angels, watch over them I pray. Father you said that if we pray in accordance with your will than you would grant our request. We thank you that you are moving behind the scenes and working things out for our good and your glory! Amen

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Still struggling and in need of your prayers!

I do have a *positive* though: my BH consented to meet with me to read Dr. Harley's books together! He's still not sure if he's willing to reconcile, but our "reading meetings" have gone pretty well and I think we both look forward to the time spent together. Please continue to pray for both of us!

I'd also like to request your prayers for my new acquaintance Karl Gamwell. He founded a website called MarriageRomance.com that offers free faith-based marriage coaching and guidance to couples in distress, and he has been very helpful and kind to me throughout our email correspondence. His site is desperately in need of volunteers willing to provide support, advice and hope; please pray that some good Christian souls sign up to help all us sinners!

I saw the following prayer somewhere online and it really struck me, so I'm posting it here in hopes that it can be useful to some of you wonderful folks here in the MB community.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong> Lord God, reach down from heaven and touch our hearts with the very same Love we committed ourselves to on our wedding day. I pray You hold our hearts in Your loving hands and bless us with forgiveness and eternal love from You and for each other. Forgive us our shortcomings and help us understand that, though we sometimes take each other for granted, our love is still alive and our marriage worthy of repair. Amen.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">God bless!

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Lord,

As I join with the others here on this site to pray for our marriages, and the marriages of others in difficulty, I also ask that you help me assume the role you have selected for me in my marriage. Help me to submit to you, and always follow your way, even if I fear where it is leading me or am discouraged that I do not receive something I want. Guide me to realize what you want from me, and forgive me when I question you and stray from the path you have chosen for me. I also pray for healing throughout the group, and especially for Bill as he recovers from what sounds like a horrific car accident. May he, and all others suffering from physical or mental pain, be restored to health. I ask this in the name of your son, who came to Earth that we may all be forgiven our many sins.

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I will be praying and fasting for all of you today.

Please pray for me. Yesterday I started a modified Plan B (my own version). My W was talking about our D's b'day party coming up and what day to have it.
Me - Sunday 2/15.
W - Well she won't go to church that day.
Me - She'll go to an early mass.
W - They don't need to go to church every week; I now lots of people who say they go to church only on the special days and their kids go to CCD.
Me - That's not what I want for our kids.
W - We agreed that they would go every other Sunday.
Me - You said it, I didn't agree to it.
The conversation then changed to me informing her that I was getting an atty to protect myself in the possible D. I again proclaimed my love for her, that I was sorry, that I would do ANYTHING, to save the marriage.
She said she could never sleep with me again; trust me; she knows last Sunday when I went to see my friends (theatre) I was problably up to no good; the road rage; she knows I'll never change; I had everything with the affair planned; weak people need god; she' knows right from wrong and doesn't need god; etc.

I let her know that I did not want ot get an atty but she is leaving no other choice because I don't know what she is going to do in court. I told her, "I don't want this. I can't afford an atty. We are going to lose the house because that is the only palve we have money." She didn't care. "I told her NOT to come to me for problems any more: work, her atty, her own personal stuff. i will talk about the kids and if something is needed for the house, otherwise NC. She said she keeps forgetting that, but she needs someone in her life because she has noone to talk to. She wants someone she can trsut again, but not me. W - "Noone cheats on me. And I don't forgive that. And you are only saying this because you are scared."

Overall I feel I might have been a bit gruff in my talking but, I need to break the emotional hurt that happens everytime she wants to share her day. She walks away or says it none of her concern when I try to share with her.

Abba Daddy, forgive me my impatience and my jealous heart. I see You working on the lives and marriages of several people here and I know You answer all prayers. I feel though that my prayers will not be answered with my marriage being resolved. I have not seen anyone here who's spouse was a non-believer have a change of heart. Every spouse I have seen was a fallen or lax believer. This is why I am impatient and jealous. Please forgive me. I want my wife to be saved and I don't see the slightest change in her. In fact she is more anti-spirit and condenming of You. I know all things are possible through You and Your Love; please draw my wife up in Your arms and cover her with Your Love. Restore her salvation and our marriage. I ask this by the Most Holy Name of Jesus. Amen.

Love and Peace in Christ,
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"Lord Jesus, I come to you in Your Precious Name. We all love you, Lord. We don't understand the hurt and anguish we are going through right now. We need your mercy and grace today, Jesus. Please grant us the unconditional love for our spouses that we so desperately need. Thank you, Lord, for your unconditional love for us. Jesus, give us the strength for one more day living in your wonderful presence. In Your Name we pray, Amen".

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Lord,

I see so much pain and anguish from several of your followers on this MB board, including myself. Please be with each one of us as we stand behind your word that says, What man has joined together, let no man separate. Father God, we know that man has separated what you have joined together, we know this is broken, that there are broken spirits out there because one spouse wishes for it to be healed. Please heal our hearts, our minds, and our spirits, Father. Please renew us into the people you have called us to be. We ask that you move mountains and change hearts and show Your mighty glory right here, right now. Sometimes we get impatient Lord. Sometimes we want things right this minute and we do not want to wait for You to answer. Please give us patience to wait on Your responses. We ask that you convict us of our sins, show us the areas that we need to improve in our lives so we can become more like Your only begotten son, Jesus Christ. Help us, mold us, use us to minister to the poor in spirit and bring people to You. On a personal note, God, I ask that You keep speaking to my H with mighty words, so loud that he cannot ignore them. Give him a sense of urgency that he needs to return to his family, to the ones who love him, admire him, respect him, and want to be a family with him. I ask you to put it in his heart that he try to rebuild the love that has been lost toward me. I ask You to put it in his heart that he long for You, that he wishes to return to Your word, to Your teachings, to Your unconditional love. All this I ask in the name of my Savior, my Lord, Jesus Christ. Amen.

I will be praying for each of you today. I will not be fasting, however. I have been soul searching on this and feel I must submit to my H & try to put the weight on that I have lost. I have lost quite a bit of weight in the last 4 months and I feel very unhealthy. My H has taken notice & has made remarks about my weight & that I look sickly. One of his ENs is Attractiveness & I am trying to fulfill that need by paying more attention to my appearance, something I slacked while he lived here. Please pray that he keeps noticing these changes in me & that the Lord puts it in his heart that I am sincere in my efforts to change myself, not for my H, but for my God. Pray that God removes the blinders from his eyes that stops him from loving me the way a H should love a wife, and that I see him for the person he is called to be, the way our God sees him.

Last night I had an extremely bad day & started to question God and I felt horrible inside for doing so. I know that He is working behind the scenes and I must remember that faith is in things UNseen. My H has been truly hurt by my not speaking to him & I feel that I can no longer do that. I have determined that I was pushing the envelope too much with him, calling him unnecessarily, me making too much effort, trying too hard. In order for God to fully reach him, I must leave him alone, let him come to me. He wishes to be friends, and however painful that may be, that might just be the way God intends to restore this marriage. We never had the opportunity to become true friends before we married and had children so young so maybe this is what God intends. And as with all friendships between the opposite sex, it could take a while before the romantic feelings come into play. I must continue to "suffer through it" no matter how painful that may be. I realized that my not speaking to him created a hostile environment, strife, and I do not wish that to continue. In essence, I was arguing with my H and I mustn't do this. I must not pursue him, but rather, allow God to work on the repairs, work on both of our hearts, minds and souls and then He can truly unite us into one. When I do have contact with him, I must make it loving and friendly, showing the love of God at all times. I finally broke down to God, asking Him for something, although human, some kind of sign that I am doing the right thing. I had asked my H to call me when he got to work to make sure he was safe from the hazardous road conditions. He usually does not honor this request; however, last night, at 1:00 am, my H called to let me know he was safe & back home because the person he was scheduled to replace had come in. We were then on the phone for 2 hours talking about his schooling.

Thank You God, that although my H is still confused & does not want C at this particular time, I know that You are working to fill his heart with love. That You are using this time to develop both of us into the people You meant us to be. Thank You for paving the road ever so smoothly and perfectly to prepare us for the duties of husband & wife so when You are ready, You can bring us together again, having You as the head of our household. In Jesus' name, Amen.

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Oh, Abba, God, we are so full of doubts and fears and misgivings right now. Each one of us struggles daily to have faith and believe You are who You say You are and You are a rewarder of them that diligently seek YOU. Oh, God, my Abba, give us a glimpse of who You are. What glory, what majesty is YOURS, oh Father God. You have created all we see around us and You have foreseen each step, each stumble on our way. Oh, God, help us to look at You and see YOU in all your power and love and grace and holiness. Help our finite minds to get a small sampling of your awesomeness for then, then all that surrounds our lives would fade away and be nothing in the presence of You. Oh, God, be our sole desire, be the one who we run to first, the one who comforts us and upholds us. Help us not just to need You, but to desire You. Oh, Father, help me to forgive and let go. It is so hard to take my hands off of everything and just let YOU work, but I know that that is how You work best. Oh, Father, if I’m not involved at all – it will be ALL to YOUR GLORY! Oh, God, help me to rejoice in what You will do in my life and the life of my husband. For You will do something, You love us too much to leave us alone. And for those of us who are staggering under the weight of our spouse’s rebellion, denial, and sin, help us to let go of that debt they owe us and give it to You. They, like us will never be able to make up for the wrongs that they have done. Help us to let that go, because it only hurts us and destroys the image of You that You would create in us. Give us grace, Father, because we need it every day. Help us to daily give our lives to You – all of it good, bad, painful, and angry. You can make us into something beautiful. Help us to wait with Hopeful Expectancy. Knowing that we can not plan or predict what You will do, but we can trust that it will be the BEST for us. Give us wisdom as we try to walk circumspectly in front of our unsaved and rebellious spouses. May we do all things for YOUR glory and not for ourselves (that includes doing things to save our marriages – they are in your hands now and forever). Amen.

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AMEN!!

Fasting and praying for you all.

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AMEN!

Prayed and fasted (does a day count as 24 hrs? - Tues 7pm - Wed 7pm <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ), for all of us sinners and our sinful spouses.

Love and Peace in Christ,
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A long day of prayer my friends. I feel like we've broken some strong holds today!

May God Bless and Protect everyone of you.

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What we need is a few good praise reports!

Father God, I ask that You would begin to attach rewards to our efforts. I ask that You would prove to us that our prayers, fasting, and praise WILL bring about healing and restoration in all these marriages. Father, reward our committment, even when it has been sprinkled with frusration and doubt from time to time. I ask that You would save some of the marriages in a miraculous way. Give us even more reason to declare Your glory, mercy, and grace. Lord, I willfully put myself at the end of the list, if You will only begin to move swiftly, beginning tonite. I thank You and I praise You for what You are going to do.In Jesus name. Amen

God Bless
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sg,
AMEN, to your request.

I can hear some impatience in your words. I know because I feel very impatient and at times wondering without understanding.

Yesterday, I read His Word for over an hour. That's alot for me (but that will change <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ). I asked God to show me something about Himself in what I was reading because (sorry) this book, Numbers, was so far boring to me. Well in chaps 6-14, He gave me a slap that woke me up. First though, I was bored because of all the "numbers', the census, and this was the son of who and what. So I became bored.
In those chaps yesteray, the Isrealites kept angering God: thier complaints about food, about the 'land of milk and honey' being too well protected for them to take; having to eat manna when they wanted meat; about how they would have been in better off back in Egypt. Plus Aaron and Miriam fighting over Moses being the only one who could talk directly to God.
He showed tremendous patience and His love for Moses by NOT destroying the Isrealites on more than one occassion.
That woke me up. Stop complaining and asking for things to be back like they were. To go back. If I was to go back, I would not have been reborn. Then what? I prayed to God last night to give me the strength to stop complaining and to understand and forgive me when I do.

Love and Peace in Christ,
ttsmm


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