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Every Wed. we pray and fast for one another for resolution to our marriages and our lives. Every Wed. we can check in and let our fellow prayer warriors know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better. "For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst." Matt 18:20.

I will be entering the prayer post on Sundays so everyone has an opportunity to check in and to add their own personal prayer request if they want to/need to. Then on Wed. we can check in, hit the "Post Reply" button, and enter "Amen".

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us. If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.


Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: -.{174 Prayer Warriors and counting}
cajunky . Ezra . Willgetthruthis . Godisincontrol . Natasha79 . JohnC . NMWBTWBD (Not My Will, But Thy Will Be Done) . Wallace . relady . steadfast and committed . morriggs . lupolady . stillwaiting . Broken Hearted . PasDeDeux . hopeful_person . GinnyF . justpeachy . cry2much . SNL . LostAgain (Dave&April) . Dodger (Rtron) . gloriachu . LoveNcare . JMF . WEN . NiteHawk . Absurd . LetSTry . AgainsttheWind . cemmerson . getting better . kellidiane . Terrified . BeeLee . idostylin . Resilient . thiscantbehappening . day by day . Jloves . broken x3 . Sue with Hope . sunrise1 . shepette . Malc . Faithfulwife . timbo-e . Angelia . FeelingAllAlone . broken_joe .

dopey . awake . trulyafriend . Is it to late? . stilltryingtosaveit . landslide . GODBLESSU . vega . LoyalWarrior . janna-m-r . ferbie . EpiphOny . Simmy . cajeanie . d_rose . lost_lonely . briank4775 . mayflower . Caged_Bird . LunaDove . goldilocks109 . darwud . Mrs. Darwud . Zuzus_Petals . adamv . Army Hubby . Gail (mojodiva) & Shane . bonnie five & H . TryingToKeepHope . Hopeful98 . Ighoping . SoTired (Mike & Trish) . evega . Douglas and Kirsi Nielson . Jessicafl27 . kimmy2 . auntielala . weezy8550 . miserynmissouri .STBXWife . sealfan . Jen Brown . SMIAJ . Cinderella . GreggC . trying_to_accept . solon . serenitydipity . ilia . lonejrock .

anchorhugger . Prayer & Patience . Chikar . Alex6 . Hopeforamiracle . fishlady . rookie . Made A Mess of Things . *DeepSigh* . boden . new comittment . deeplyhurting . jeff15679 . Bob Castaldi . k57mo . skottyjay (Scott & Melody) . TROD (Tony and Julie) . thisso . ladysheep . hurtmorethanheknows . singleguy . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage . Keesley . recovering_dad . Terrianna . javaContour . BH . Cheryls . cherry log . AD. . Suebee . REJECTED . LoveMyEx . LostHusband . kings kid . kwhittle . vividwhisper . imready2try . staeryn . JoeCM . mike729 . Ridingtherollercoaster . DREslinger . ecpsap . Mr.Miew . StandingTogether . Alcoholic’s Wife . gentle . Stung by a Bee . maximus1 . Blended family girl . Diamonzzz . sctaylor . RichardF . bygraceamfree . butterflie . FinallyLearning . angielt . luke parrish . sadmama . Timeheals . OuchThisHurts . mojo95 . Cherylpa . nvrgvup . Titleist . auto009988 . Hope92 . JLight . Culprit007 and hubby . ddc03 . new_beginning . Waiting On My Change . allmyloveforever . jamesp .

Prayers Answered/God's Gifts to Us:

LunaDove (God answered her question). hopeful98 (H went to church) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (made a promise to God to give me a headache when I am not living His Word – boy does my head hurt ;-) . lupolady ( was a Witness and Testimony to her faith to a woman in the vet’s office) . Steadfastandcommitted (W told OM she would soon be leaving her job, he replied that he guesses he’ll have to start dating) . RichardF (W and him went to a 'marriage weekend' together and have started communicating again) . TTSMM (stood by D in church when she did her first reading ever during her "First Penance" ceremony) . Standing_For_M (H is talking about MC; H is spending nights at the house; received $$ to payoff outstanding bills and bank the remainder) . adamv (talked and prayed the prayer of salvation with his 8yr old son) . finallylearning (has broken ties with the OM) . Steadfast and Committed (MIL left the hospital; his dog was found by the Humane Society) . Standing_For_M (H stayed over for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day; rec'd Christmas gifts for her and her kids and food/groceries from her mom and her job; had great talk with H on phone; H said he told a co-worker a story about when they first dated) . lupolady (broken arm is healed; bought herself a new car) . staeryn (H moving back temporarily to help with their new baby) . sadmama (H is ending A and coming home; her D's pray for the Prayer Warriors) . hopeful98 (R&R in Mexico) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (at Mass, a child was being baptized and my D said, "Look Daddy, another member has just joined God's family; D is doing a reading at her "First Sacrament of Reconciliation" service this Saturday) . Standing_For_M (her & H attended S' holiday concert and had a good time) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (kids were playing very loudly while W was baking and she didn't lose it, she let them have fun) . singleguy (found a gal, and her dog, who he can have a friendship with) . hopeful98 (had a nice conversation with her H) . Standing_for_M (had a five hour talk with H, some flirting with him as well) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (in my D's public school, they discussed things pertaining to the winter season, she said "God's Birthday") . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (I struck up a conversation with a former Catholic-Christian and shared my life, experiences and "The Purpose Driven Life" with him. first time I ever shared my faith with a stranger) . Blended faily girl (found a job within a Christian environment and received a raise) . Blended faily girl (the Lord placed a strong Christian woman in her life for a "Purpose") . Blended faily girl (four hour Bible study with sister on phone) . Standing_for_M (her H stayed the night, on the sofa, after visiting her and the children) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (a wonderful Thanksgiving with my wife and children - no fighting or talk of divorce) . Standing_for_M (her H's heart is softening by his actions towards her and their children) . LoveNcare (her son returns to his wife after 14 months) . lupolady (hard cast taken off her arm) . kings kid (good news about her biopsy) . Terrianna (daughter not moving away) . Steadfastandcommitted (wife is back and we are planning to renew our wedding vows in our church) . tryingTOsaveMYmarraige (D is interested in the Christian music I am listening to and asks a lot about God) . hopeful_person (H seemed more willing to consider a reconciliation) . GreggC (wife's heart is softening a bit and son asking about things in the Bible and believes in it) . WGTT (WH coming home) . d_rose (got a ways to go but we are going there together.) . Faithfulwife (GOT A JOB, Found a house, D is final and got a puppy that “just LOVES me”) . tsc (marriage being restored) . janna-m-r (Husband came home and wants to try to restore marriage even though he is the BS) . Steadfastandcommitted (wife gave up other man) . Stillwaiting (Got to see her husband for 2 hours and his heart seems to have softened) . Stillwaiting (neice is o.k.) . cajunky (wife not engaged & did something with family, told me she loved me) . Free (Marriage Restoration begun ) . Againstthewind (Got job) . betrayed and desparate (sucessful cancer surgery) . WGTT (accepted into mentor program) . Movingonwithlife (Wife coming home) . cry2much(sucessful surgery) . Steadfastandcommitted (first string again) . Lupolady (air conditioner) .

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The Power of a Praying Wife

Chapter Thirteen – His Trials

Everyone goes through hard times. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. Sometimes our prayers help us to avoid them. Sometimes not. It’s the attitude we have when we go through them that matters most. If we are filled with anger and bitterness, or insist on complaining and blaming God, things tend to turn out badly. If we go through them with thankfulness and praise to God, He promises to bring good things despite them. He says to “count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience” (James 1:2,3).

A wife’s prayers for her husband during these times may not change some of the things he must go through. After all, if we never suffered anything, what kind of shallow compassionless, impatient people would we be? But prayer can help him maintain a positive outlook of gratitude, hope, patience and peace in the midst of it, and keep him from reaping the penalty of wrong response.

Whether it feels like it or not, when we serve God, His love attends every moment of our lives – even the toughest, loneliest, most painful and desperate. He is always there in our midst, working things out for good when we pray and look to Him to do so. “We know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose” (Romans 8:28). His purpose for our trials is often to bring us humbly before Him to experience a breaking in our inner, independent, self-sufficient selves and grow us up into compassionate, patient, spiritually strong, God-glorifying people. He uses these situations to teach us how to trust that He loves and cares for us enough to get us through the tough times.

If your husband is going through a difficult time, carry it in prayer, but don’t try to take away his load and make it yours. That will ultimately leave him feeling weak or like a failure.

Pray that your husband will be able to press in closer to God until he knows that nothing can separate him from his love – not what he is going through now and not what will happen in the future.

Trials can be a purifying fire and a cleansing water. You don’t want your husband to get burned or drowned; you want him to get refined and renewed. God has promised that “in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us” (Romans 8:37). “He who endures to the end shall be saved” (Matthew 24:13).

PRAYER

Lord, You alone know the depth of the burden my husband carries. I may understand the specifics, but You have measure the weight of it on his shoulders. I’ve not come to minimize what You are doing in his life, for I know You work great things in the midst of trials. Nor am I trying to protect him from what he must face. I only want to support him so that he will get through this battle as the winner.

God, you are our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:11). You have invited us to “come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need” (Hebrews 4:16). I come before your throne and ask for grace for my husband. Strengthen his heart for this battle and give him patience to wait on You (Psalm 27:1-4). Build him up so that no matter what happens he will be able to stand strong through it. Help him to be always “rejoicing in hope, patient in tribulation, continuing steadfastly in prayer” (Romans 12:12). Give him endurance to run the race and not give up, for You have said that “a righteous man may fall seven times and rise again” (Proverbs 24:16). Help him to remember that “the steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord, and He delights in his ways. Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down; for the Lord upholds him with His hand” (Psalm 37:23,24).

I pray he will look to You to be his “refuge until these calamities have passed by” (Psalm 57:1). May he learn to wait on You because “those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint” (Isaiah 40:31). I pray the he will find his strength in You and as he cries out to You, You will hear him and save him out of all his troubles (Psalm 34:6). AMEN!

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Chapter 13 - HER PURPOSE

Everyone has gifts and talents. Your wife needs to understand what hers are. That's because she will be fulfilled only when she is using the Gifts God gave her, for the purpose for which God called her.

Wives want to be the crown that our husbands wear proudly. But too often the woman they are called to be and want to be-and know they can and should be- and the person they are, don't match up.

None of us can be who we need to be without the power of God transforming us and enabling us to change. Miraculous things can happen. But often they don't because we try to make things happen in our mates instead of asking God to do it. But praying for your mate to become all she was created to be invites God to make changes that last.

Your wife wants to be the wife God created her to be and you need her to be. She wants to know how to best honor you and be a true helpmate.

Another reason your wife needs to recognize her gifts and calling is so that she will not be seeking after something God is not calling her to be or do. It must be God who does it all. Declaring her complete dependence on Him is the first step toward realizing His call on her life. Your prayers can help her to understand that.

PRAYER

LORD, I know that You have placed within (wifes name) special gifts and talents that are to be used for Your plurpose and Your glory. Show her what they are, and show me too, Lord, that I may encourage her. Help her to know that You have something in particular for her to do and have given her a ministry that only she can fulfill. Give her a sense of Your call on her life, and open doors of opportunity for her to develop and use her gifts in that calling.

I pray that Your would give my wife understanding that Your plan for her life has a specific and perfect timing. Even though she may not know the details of that plan, help her to rest in the confidence of knowing that You will bring it to pass as she seeks You in the details of her life.

LORD, I pray that (wifes name) will be the wife You have called her to be and the wife I need her to be. What I need most from my wife right now is (name the need most pressing on your heart). Show me what my wife needs from me. Help us to fulfill one another in these areas without requiring of each other more than we can be. Keep us from having unrealistic expectations of each other when our expectations should be in You. Help us to recognize the gifts You have placed in each of us and to encourage one another in their developement and nurture.

Thank You, LORD, for the wife You have given me (Proverbs 19:14). Release her into Your perfect plan for her life so that she will fulfill the destiny You've given her. Use her gifts and talents to bless others.Bring her into alignment with Your ultimate purpose for her life, and may she be fulfilled in it. I say to her, you are "like a fruitful vine in the very heart of your house" (Psalm 128:3). "Many daughters have done well, but you excel them all"(Proverbs 31:29). "Let your light so shine befroe men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven" ( Mattehew 5:16). Lord, grant my wife according to her heart's desire, and fulfill all her purpose(Psalm 20:4).
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Just wanted to let you all know I will be praying for you tomorrow.

Also wanted to post a praise. Thank you God for allowing me not to give up and for giving me an answer to the question I asked you. Whenever I am ready to give up on my marriage, You show me to continue to stand. I know it will be in Your time and not mine.

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LunaDove,

AMEN!!! I am so happy <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> to hear this. I knew He would give you an answer. You are always in my prayers my friend. Take care of yourself.


I will also be praying for everyone tomorrow. I want to ask that you keep my MIL in your prayers. She is currently in the hospital. She's been having very bad stomach pains (might be her gallbladder). I want to go visit her today but are a bit scared of bumping into my H. I know God will give me strength and maybe this will give me a chance to show my H that I still love him dearly. Please pray for me. Thanks.

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I will be praying for you hopeful.

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Thank You StandingTogether!

MIL seems to be doing better, doesn't look like she'll need surgery. But they're still doing tests on her. My mother wants to go with me to visit her, so that makes bumping into H even more.....don't even know the word. Interesting? Thanks for your prayers!

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I will be praying and fasting for you and your families today.

Let us pray for the prodigals in our lives. We ask You Dear Jesus.
Let us pray for those who don't even know they need to be prayed for; who don't know they need God's Love and His salvation. We ask You Dear Jesus.
Let us pray that God will open their hearts, remove them from the fog that encompasses them; show then the truth, His Truth. We ask You Dear Jesus.
Let us pray for those in our familes who do not believe, love or know You. We ask You Dear Jesus.
Let us pray for patience for ourselves; that we will not falter in our journey with God. We ask You Dear Jesus.
Let us pray for God to comfort us when we want to give up on our marriages, our families, and our lives. We ask You Dear Jesus.
Let us pray for His Grace always. We ask You Dear Jesus.
We thank You, Dear Jesus, for all the graces You bestow upon us every day.
We thank You, Dear Jesus, for all the trials and tests You place upon us, knowing it is for our good.
We thank You, Dear Jesus, for giving us our spouses, as they are right now, so we may grow in love for You.
We thank You, Dear Jesus, for restoring things on Your timetable and not ours.
We thank You, Dear Jesus, for dying on the cross for our sins; being our intercessor before our Heavenly Father; and rising again, thereby granting us everlasting life. Amen.


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AMEN!

Just checking in to let you all know I am fasting and praying for you all today.

PLEASE remember my MIL in your prayers. Doctors still don't know what is wrong with her, but her gallbladder is really swollen. They tried doing some tests on her yesterday (inserting a tube down her throat with a small camera attached) but she started having difficulty breathing so they stopped. They are going to try again today. Please also pray for my H. He's having a very hard time coping with his mom being in the hospital. One of his aunts told me that he's been crying so much for her. I am going to be leaving work early today to be with her for a while. I appreciate all your prayers. Thank You!

God Bless you All!!

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This is request for prayers for my uncle, his wife and their unborn child. The baby is sick and they may need to terminate the pregnancy. I really don't know much of the condition and this is what a cousin told me. Please pray for all of them.

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I would just like to see some progress, some hopeful sign that my W would consider reconciliation instead of the divorce that she has filed.

I know God is still working on me, and I have to believe He is trying to reach her. Sometimes it's frustrating that His timetable doesn't match my own.

If time means nothing to God, then why isn't today a great day for reconciliation?

Just a question I struggle with. Neither of us will be perfect here on earth. So we can't be waiting for perfection.

I try to praise God for the lessons he is showing me. It would be nice if my W didn't try to avoid me all the time.

I just ask God that perhaps he could show me and provide her with the path to peace, so she is not so tense when she is around me.

If I am the source of that tension, then I ask God and His Holy Spirit to show me what I'm doing to cause that tension. And more importantly, show me what to do instead of those acts.

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Just want to share something with you...

Two weeks ago I had a bit of a spiritual crisis, and haven't been around here (the Prayer Board) as much. A funny thing happened, that I think you'll be interested in...

I had four emails from MB'ers (past and present) who told me that they lurk around here and pray for those in need. They'd seen my crisis play out, and were praying for me.

Just know that even when we aren't in the thick of posting, it doesn't mean that prayers aren't being sent, and you aren't being thought of...

You never know who is hanging about, who is watching, and who is praying for you.

I was going to write about how *I* have been praying for you (and I have) but this came to my mind instead.

Hope it brings comfort... it did to me.

God Bless...

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java,
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If time means nothing to God, then why isn't today a great day for reconciliation?
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It's good to ask these questions of God, just keep the LB's (inlcuding being down around your W) to nil.

Yesterday, from her statements to me about her going to date if she finds someone, I finally gave it all over to God. I didn't give up, i changed where I am coming from with. In other words, "I got out of His way." I went to the store and started crying because IT SCARES ME to not be in control (wow, I can't believe I just now typed that - thank You God for that revelation). Anyway, I am scared but at the same time relieved because I can now work on my relationship to God. I haven't abandoned my W or my M, I am just coming from a stronger place.

I hope you find some peace in these words.

God bless,
ItsInHisHandsNow


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