Hey Guys,<BR>It's been a bad day. I don't have anyone to tell so, thanks for being here. Yesterday. H told counselor that he still had't made up his mind about ow or his marriage. And he did look for apartments. Then we spent the day together went out to dinner and had a very nice day. I could here those love units going right in the bank. Today he was distant, snapped at me,and just wanted to be alone. He keeps emailing her whenever he gets a chance on my computer!After I read "Surviving an Affair" I was so naive. I thought I could just love him with plan A and he would come to his senses. Hasn't happened yet. I wrote him a long letter tonight telling him how I feel,how I love him,and want to meet his needs and have the chance to work on our marriage. Was this a good idea? Should I let him know how I feel (I'm sure ow is letting him know just how she feels) or will it make him feel like I'm pressuring him? Any suggestions? Oh well, tomorrow is a family picnic I hope he goes with me and we have a good day. thanks for listening.<P><BR>

Noel,<P>I'm sorry you are having a bad day. We all have them. I think you should try to leave him alone. I know it's hard, but your H is so confused right now, he doesn't know which way is up. <BR>About the e-mail. I tried that with my H, never got any responses from him. Every time I tried to tell him I wanted to work on our marriage, he said I was chasing him. I'd been chasing him our whole relationship. Go figure. Since when is love, chasing. Don't you just wish you could crawl into their heads for 10 minutes and scrap out all the [censored].<BR>Hang in there. Be as nice as you can to him, and try not to ask to many questions.<BR>Be strong,we're here for you.<BR>God Bless,<BR>cc

Thanks ceecee. I really appreciate your reply. You feel so alone going through this. I guess we have to play it day by day. I hope things are going better for you.

Noel - hand in there. As has already been said, we do all have bad days (here I am at 11pm looking for some comfort and support myself). H just left. He's staying with a friend. He too, hasn't decided between me and OW (she's in England). I'm doing a plan a right now. And get irritated that I feel like I have to do all the work. But also find tremendous support here. So hang in there and keep posting.