Hurt Bad,<P> Hello, how are you? Yes, this is dzrt, but I changed my name due to a glitch. I am sorry things are going badly for you. I don't post much anymore, but I do surf through here at work sometimes, just to see how things are going for some of the "old timers". My w found out that I posted on here and she was very upset that I was talking about personal stuff, so out of respect to her I quit doing it unless I had some advice for someone else.<BR> I will give you this brief update on me. My w and I had a rough Christmas season. I continued to Plan A, but she wasn't very receptive. I also had quite a few "blowups" with her. In the end, she felt that she needed to get away to have some peace and figure things out. Can't say that I blamed her, however she did go stay with the om. I pretty much left her alone, and tried to only contact her when she contacted me first (only via e-mail). I also spent a lot of time working on me and learning to be a single parent. You know what I found out? I can do a lot more than I thought I could. I also went out with friends and met some new people. Some of these were women and I DID get some interest! Didn't act on it, though...what can I say, I still love my w. But it did make me feel good to get some attention and it made me realise that life does go on and that I will be just fine.<BR> Now for the good part! We talked last weekend and she is coming home (she left right before New years) tomorrow! She wants to work on rebuilding our marriage! I don't know what lies ahead, but I am so excited that she still wants to try. I don't know what changed her mind, but I am very thankful. I hope we can do this...well, I know we can if we BOTH try. I also think that her spending (ok..living) time with the OM was important, although painful to me. Maybe she just needed to "find out". Who knows, but I am nervous and excited right now. But I do hate rollercoasters and I'm not off this one yet (LOL).<BR> I guess my point is this...hang in there with your h...he very well may change his mind. Plan A until you can't and then plan B. Even if he files, he may stop eventually. I know it sucks, but if you love him, the possibility of working it out is an incredible incentive. I swear right now that I don't resent the pain of the last 8 months if I just get this chance. If it doesn't work, I will have given my best and I will move on. Work on yourself and hang in there!<P>mat4<BR> I guess