This is driving me crazy, maybe someone can shed some light on this. Shortly before we married, my husband had a brief fling with a woman from our church. This woman resumed her pursuit of my husband on our wedding day (I was stupid, Okay. I wanted to be kind to her). To make a long story short, two years ago my best friend told me that this woman<BR>"confessed" to her in an Aglow meeting that she had an affair with my husband, insinuating that it happened after he and I were married. <BR>When I told my husband what she had done, he became very angry and told me that she was lying. When I confronted her, she denied having made the confession. Since my husband has lied to me about so many other things, I wouldn't know if he were telling me the truth or not. <BR>This whole thing doesn't make since to me at all. Is it possible that she wants me to believe that they resumed their relationship after we married? Has anyone else had a situation like this?<P>CJ

I guess you would have to take into consideration the relationship you have with your best friend. Is she reliable? Would she favor a split between you and your husband?<P>You would also have to take into consideration that a woman scorned is not one to mess with. meaning: the OW may be out to destroy your marriage by telling lies to your best friend. I would guess that it was not an accident that she would confess when your best friend is in the same room.<P>Is your husband telling the truth? Well if his history is being a liar, do not believe him. A betrayer will say anything to make their spouse happy. Lieing does the trick.<P>But if this was two years ago, why are you obsessing about it now? Has something else triggered your suspicions of possible affair again?<P>

Mercy<BR>I lost my connection to MB for a few days and couldn't reply. <BR>No, my friend wouldn't favor a split between my husband and I. She's known him a lot longer than I have and introduced us....she's more like his spiritual mom (led him to the Lord etc.)I think she is reliable.<P>As for the OW, I do believe that she would like to see our marriage destroyed...I hate to think that about people but I do believe that may be the case. And yes, I question why on earth she would tell my best friend of all people!!! She may have wanted my bf to tell me. <P>As far as my husband having a history of lying to me....maybe why I'm still obsessing about it. There have just been far too many things that he has lied to me about in the past. And I'm still finding out things that I didn't know before. <P>At this point, I guess my best option is to <BR>be careful about believing he has told me the whole truth.....I wish it were different.<BR>I don't know if I feel sadder about what has happened or the fact that he lied to me about it and may be still lying.<BR> <BR>Thanks for answering my post. <P>CJ<P><BR><P>------------------<BR>Psalm 42

What the OW said doesn't matter. She could be lying, she might not be. Forget about her. Don't let her have any power in your life by thinking about her (I'd really like to take this advice myself )<P>With your H, what I have done at times is think of the worst case scenario and decide how I would feel, how I would handle that. Would you still want this man? Would you still want your marriage if what the OW said is true?<P>Something else I'm pretty sure about is that for Christian believers, dark deeds come to light. Put this in God's hands and totally release it and He will give you wisdom, knowledge or peace.<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Let love be genuine...hold fast to what is good; love one another." Rom 12:9-10

Speaking from experience.....Where there is smoke there is fire............nuff said.

Thanks Lor, I probably need to start praying again that the Lord rain down blessings on her. My husband says we should pray that she is so happy in her marriage that she wouldn't want to harrass us any more.<P>yes, it is hard to forget about her...her husband's place of business is 5 minutes away from where I live and just when i think I'm free of the memorys, she manages to worm her way back into our lives somehow. <P>As far as the worst case scenario goes...I made a promise to the Lord that I wouldn't divorce my husband no matter what happened.<BR>What I already know didn't make that much difference. <P>I think I'm talking to myself at this point<BR>going back and forth in my mind. <P>CJ

CJ,<P>In all that I read from you, I have to agree that the best solution is this: <P>If you wouldn't want to leave him if it were true, then tell him that for you to heal from this vicious lie, that you forgive him for any wrong doing. That will set you free and allow you to start over. It may give him something to think about. <P>Good Luck<BR>God Bless

Mercy<P>Thanks, I think you may be right. It's probably time to forgive him...I was thinking about forgiveness earlier today.<P>My husband and I are leaving in the morning <BR>to spend the weekend at the beach. If you think of it, would you pray for us while we are away?<P>CJ