I posted this over on Emotions also I sure hope somone has advice for me.<BR>Hi Everybody, I have spent 2 days reading everybodys posts. I feel as if each one relates to me in a small way. I have been married 12 years and with my husband for 18 total. We have 2 wonderful children together. My husband works 24 hours on and 48 off, then we have a buisness also which I also work at but he is out in the field,somtimes till 8 at night. So in other words sometimes two days will go by and I will not see him. So after being alone phisically and emotionaly for so many years someone has come into my life. This other man was introduced to me thru my family. He is my husbands stepmothers brother. He lived out of town but moved here during a separation from his wife. Which she has since moved here also. I know this is playing with fire with this being a family involvment we both have alot to lose. He works for my husbands father and we do things as families often. These feelings for each other came out about a month ago and nothing happened till 2 nights ago. We were alone(I should say I was alone as usual and he came over to pick something up)Well one thing did lead to another. He called yesterday we talked for a long time about our feelings and what we wanted and didn't want. Then he came over with his stepson and he played with my kids outside while we chatted inside..I am an emotional wreck. We do not want to hurt 3 families and we know we should end it but it is hard to cope with ending it. I know it would be easier now than a few months down the road but how do I do it?? I want to say my husband I do get along great he tries to make me happy and I can honestly say I am in love with him still....I am lonely and vunrable right now. He just got back from out of town for 10 days with his father and the other man, I haven't had a night out of town for ......I can't remember when. He's gone again camping with friends. Alone again......<BR>Lu

Don't do it. You stated that you still love your H. Think about how if your H was sitting next to you instead of him. Talk to your H, and tell him how lonely you are. Tell him how you long to be with him and that you miss him so much when he is away. Maybe he needs to hear it. You have so many years loving this man and your wonderful family that this is not worth it. But your H deserves honesty and he needs to hear you say these feelings you have about his job and your feelings of lonliness. Nothing can change unless you tell him. Please keep us posted Nancy