Having been the "victim" if you will of returning to the OW I now find myself surrounded by family and friends who are there as support. This is something that did not happen the first time as my W and I chose to keep my betrayal quiet. I realize now that in doing this (keeping quiet)we/I did not allow myself the support that I needed. The pain and realization of this is now hitting home as my W and I have been separated since early may as a result of me making contact with OW. Since May 10 I have had no contact with OW and I credit the support group I have around me for that success, but as my minister has pointed out..."Do not get comfortable". Living in a small town where it is not uncommon to see, or even run into the OW makes this all the more difficult.<BR>Today is our 12 yr anniversary and it is the first time in 12 years we have not been together. W and my girls are on their way home from visiting her family in Florida. My greatest fear is that her family members will have convinced her that she is better off without me. They seem so set on pointing out my 9 months of betrayal and tend to forget about the person I have been for the last 11 years. I know that I can and want desperately to rebuild my relationship with W.

How is it going? I'm glad you've found a support group; I understand it can be very tough to give up the OW. Good luck and best wishes. --HBC