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i hate to say this, but it sounds to me like she's having an affair. however, i have been betrayed, so i know that has a lot to do with my opinion. my advice to you is to keep quiet for now. i know you want to confront her, and you probably think about it constantly. but i actually found a restaurant receipt when my h was supposed to be at a business meeting, but all he admitted to was having dinner with ow (denied anything sexual going on - just friends)! but from that point on, i had to become a detective. it makes you feel horrible, but it's the only way i was able to find anything out. he, of course, got better at hiding things after me finding the receipt, but i was still able to find things such as a receipt for a p o box after buying a new cell phone (told me his company was paying for it & the bill would go to his office). you need to keep doing plan a, but you have to protect yourself and keep snooping. who knows, maybe you'll find out there is nothing going on (i truly hope so). but if there is something going on, she's obviously not going to come right out and tell you. hang in there and keep us posted

forgot to add, you may want to post under general questions - you tend to get more responses there!

Hi, it's me. I answered you in EN. Hang in there.<P>Lori

I have to say at this point I wouldn't say anything. Well, "I" would only because it would eat up at me so badly I wouldn't be able to hold it in. However, the best bet would not to say anything. As you said if you did, since it's just circumstantial evidence it's something she can deny and it would only LB. Not to mention if she is having an affair she will get better at covering her tracks.<P>Just do a little more digging. I know how bad it feels to do this. But how else will you be able to find the answers you are looking for.<P>I'm glad you are still in the same house. It gives you a chance to Plan A your heart out and win back the love of your life. On the other hand it can slowly rip you apart inside witnessing the times she leaves the house and wondering "Is she going to see him?".<P>Look for your answers. They are there. I'll pray that she's only confused and not having an affair. I don't want to see another person added to the list of suffering spouses. One is too many if you ask me. Good Luck! Be strong.<P>Oh, what is "EN Forum"? LSM

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