hello...my name is Amanda, and I am new to the board. I have read many posts and decided that this board is very inspiring and comforting. Three months ago my fiance of two years left me for another woman (someone I am shocked he would even go for), and he lied ot me about it for three months..(continuin g to tell me how much he loved me and missed me, but needed time, and that he was just friends with her) Ij ust recently found the truth. I am in so much pain...and I feel so scared. my reason for posting is to see if any of you have success stories to share with me...even if my situation doesn't turn out the way I want it to ..hearing others stories makes me feel so much better. Also, out of those of you who have been left by your love for someone else...what did you do to win your loved one back...what advice could you offer me? And for those of you who have been the ones to leave...I would especially be interested in hearing how you felt through all of it...how your feelings changed or didn't change....and what it was that really brought you back.<BR>I will be so thankful if any of you can talk with me on this. My prayers and good wishes are with all of you as well.<P>Amanda

Amanda--<P>You don't really say if you are trying to reconcile or apart, etc. What are your desires in this relationship?<P>I was betrayed in June 2000. I am struggling with anger and hurt--pain beyond belief! However, I have found peace in Christ. I don't have all the answers--shoot--I don't even know all the questions! But I try to give my hurt to my Lord, who promises to never leave me or forsake me.<P>Will the triggers ever disappear? Will the memories vanish? Will I ever be able to be intimate w/o seeing the OM in the room w/ us? I don't know, but I do know that God has given me rest and peace. We are together now and rebuilding. It ain't easy, but it is worthwhile.<P>Joel

Thank you Joel fro the reply.<BR>To answer your questions...we have been apart for three months..but I just recently found out about the OW. I love him very much and wanto so desperately reconcile...I just want to make the right moves. What did you do to get your wife back...or did she just come back on her own?<P>Thanks again.<BR>Amanda (sad)

Welcome <B>chocolatetoe</B>...<P>There is a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... <P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000553.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P><B>About your post</B>...<P>If you're looking to save your relationship... do start on a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>...<BR>Check out my post <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000176.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101 (2nd ed.)</A>.<P>As far as success stories...<BR>...check the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000554.html" TARGET=_blank>Notable Posts/Threads</A>.<P> <P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000254.html" TARGET=_blank>Jim</A> / <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000037.html" TARGET=_blank>NSR</A>