My husband is now living with his mother and I have started Plan B...while we communicate mostly through emails (which is the way my WS wanted because I said and did some hurtful things to him when I found out about his A), he has recently been calling me and talking about mostly administrative things via telephone. I have made attempts at being very cordial and have kept things short and sweet but should I tell him (because I'm at plan B with him) that we should only be communicating by email? He is still involved in his A (it has been 2 weeks since D-day. I do enjoy talking to him (albeit it brief and business-like, and I get the sense he is surprised that I'm not emotional and flying off the handle but if it is unwise to have verbal communication at this point, I'd like to know.<p> If anyone can give some input I would really appreciate it.

You jumped to plan B quite quickly <p>His not being at home does not exclude you from Plan A<p>Perhaps you could reevaluate that decision, <p>Plan A should be the first route “set a time frame” then move on to plan B if you have no success.<p>If you haven’t yet order a copy of SAA and learn the basics. It will be the best money you’ve spent.

Thanks for your reply...I will attempt to begin to implement plan A (even though he is not living at home) as he has mentioned, because of the fog, that he doesn't want to reconcile and still appears to be very angry with me. I just assumed that I should work on Plan B in light of the fact that I asked him to leave and told him it was over (obviously, I have changed my mind and am praying for reconciliation.) I do have SAA but have not completed reading it but will do so. Thanks for your input!