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Guess what my WH wanted to go see at the show?<p>Unfaithful...... I almost lost my mind. How stupid can he be. I was really angry at him and told him NO....... I DON'T WANT TO GO SEE THAT MOVIE. Then I walked away and went to our bedroom and cried. What was he thinking?<p>As far as everything else he has been o.k.. I still don't trust him and now he is telling me his every move. He even tells me to call him at work to make sure. But I don't know what it is, I just have no desire to know. Is that normal??? I still Love my H but now it is different. Is it the trust issue? That is making me this way?<p>I still snoop but not as much. I just wish I knew the truth. I would ask him but I don't want to bring up the A. How do I know? <p>Yesterday he told me about what a mess he has made of our lives and how stupid he was and that he was sorry. He even told me "I LOVE YOU". I was totally shocked..... but I don't still don't believe him.<p>I am still doing Plan A and I know it is making a difference. But alot of the time I just feel like telling H to go to H***. It is so difficult.<p>Lost ---------------------- Together 18 years, Married 10 d-day 03-12-02, d-day2 04-17-02, d-day3 04-28-02 2 boys (9 & 7) 1 girl (3) ----------------------
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Why isn't anyone replying? Am I not making sense? What is it?
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Hi! <p>No, you are making perfect sense and I can't understand why your H would be so insensitive as to recommend seeing Unfaithful. Talk about an LB.<p>I am sorry to hear about your situation, I know it must be tough - unfortunately I can't really offer any good advice, but you have my sympathy and support for what its worth... <p>Try posting on the General Questions board - there seems to be more traffic there and you would probably get a lot more replies.<p>Take care!
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I'm actually curious to see the movie. Because the woman is cheating. I would encourage my H to put himself in Richard Gere's betrayed husband shoes, and imagine how he'd feel if I cheated. Or my H could put himself in the OM's shoes and imagine himself getting killed by his OW's husband.<p>The most insensitive infidelity movie I've ever seen is Dr. Zhivago.<p>But I understand completely that in your situation the last thing you want to think about is infidelity. Unfortunately you are living it, it is not entertainment.
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gourami12,<p>Thank You. I needed to hear something. I don't know what he was thinking. But it truly was a LB. I felt so bad. The rest of the evening he was giving me shots, but I just ignored him. But what made it worse was earlier that day he told me that he was sorry again, and he also said ILY.<p>FOG............... Go Figure.<p>Lost
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espoir,<p>Oh no...... Not me. I think it is still to early. I still can't control myself sometimes, even when I watch comercials. <p>It really hasn't been that long for me. I guess 2 weeks since d-day3. So I really don't know if my H is sincere or not. Hard to say. But he did promise no contact, since that day. I really really want to ask him but I don't want to LB. Maybe I will have the C ask him. <p>I am also BS with 3 kids. Your H's withdrawal lasted 2 months? What did you do since 12/00-07/01? Plan A/B? Why was true recovery 02/02? <p>Lost
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One thing about the Fog - the BS needs to develop an incredibly thick skin to stay sane. Ugh.<p>Hang in there Lost and espoir!
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I cringe whenever I see a commercial for that movie. I definitely could not watch it with my fiance...don't even think I could watch it by myself.
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I can't imagine anyone who doesn't have the absolute best communication with his/her spouse going to see it with him/her.<p>I saw it by myself, which was just fine with me.<p>My H and I get uncomfortable just watching the trailer.<p>I'll tell you this much: This is a movie that stays with you. It's hard to get out of your mind. It does NOT glorify infidelity, that's for sure. In this film, adultery is a messy, ugly, sordid business that doesn't even make the people involved in it happy. And of course in this film the consequences are dire.<p>But the biggest problem is that there is no context for this woman to have this particular affair -- with a stranger.<p>It's well done, it's interesting, if ugly and upsetting, and Diane Lane is terrific.
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No thanks on the movie. My wife and I saw the previews for it while we were at the theater for another film. We both said "that's one we will NOT be seeing".<p>Can't figure out why anyone on MB would want to see it. It's like watching pornography to see how they make the film when we know pornography is disgusting.
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