Jim:
Thanks for some positive hopes. I have heard so many negatives today, that I'm ready to cry. One marriage group told me I'm the mistress now and she 's the wife. Role reverasl. This has hit so hard..any suggestions on this?
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by NSR:
<strong>In time...
...you know you'll have to let him back...
...
BUT ONLY... if he can make the first step of
no contact!
He's not there yet, since he is still in contact with the OW.
From
"Surviving An Affair"(SAA)...
What if the Wayward spouse contacts the lover?
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If there is a failure to totally separate from a lover, it usually means that the measures taken to guarantee separation are inadequate. (page 73 of SAA)</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">
Any contact with the OP by the wayward, sets the wayward's recovery time back to the beginning. (page 73 of SAA)</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">While there is no hope for reconciliation when the affair is underway, as soon as the affair is ended, reconciliation is definitely possible. (page 74 of SAA)</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">...he needs to prove in action... (not just a profession)... that he is ready to start a recovery!
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Jim/NSR</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">