New to MB, first post, been reading everything I can find here, have been immensely helped by you kind folks!

I am BS, 41. H is WS, 35. No kids. OW is married co worker with 10 yo child. H and OW still work together, not closely. EA discovered on 6-15-02. H in hotel for 1 week, then back home. H told OW he intended to come back and work on marriage. H off work for week, we have worked very hard on ENs and LBs, lots of success (honeymoon period?) No MC yet, will start soon, I have third IC session scheduled. I understand my contribution to EA occurence, working hard on this area. H understands inappropriateness of behavior, also understands my issues, very very helpful with that also. Both following radical honesty policy. H back at work this week: no contact by OW until Wed, when she tried to initiate conversation twice. H immediately advised me via email and did not engage - effort at "gentle rebuff." OW sent email last night, just a forward of a news article. Another effort at initiating conversation this morning.

Question: Where can I find (and FAST!) the "no contact" letter? H agrees that it may be useful in our situation. Have numbers to order SAA but am thinking I may find at local bookstore IF that is only source.

Thanks in advance for any suggestions!

Very simple! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> They can be short too! The gist of the no contact letter is... the WS has decided to stay in the marriage and work on it 120%! The A was a mistake that hurt the people that were loved the most. The WS will have no more contact, of any kind with the OP. OP should respect this and move on with their lives!

I've seen different versions, but that's pretty much the gist of it!
Good luck and look after yourself.

Msjpw,

For the books, local Christian bookstore carries them ... B&N or Border carries them but it is always sold out.

Here is a recent post ... Also do serach on sample no contact letter ... Post your letter here if you want some input ... JIM/WAT/Orchid might be around to give you a hand.

-RH-

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