Hm-m-m-m, Bonnie. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

What's up? Happy weekend! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Still Seeking, Too Old & SAB......
Thank you for your concern and replies, sorry I haven't replied, but, you know sometimes you don't know what to say or even how you feel, I promise I will bring you up to date in the next couple days, I am not ignoring youse, I appreciate your kind words, you help sustain me. I am doing okay, thank God for my daughters, and life goes on. I have been volunteering at the Parish Office, that helps, and it puts me around different people, which helps, seems like ones I have known in the past sort of avoid you, they don't know what to say, and the ones around him are the ones in low places...(where he is now). He actually went over to where my grandson works part time to tell him he wasn't living with the OW, he was staying in the camper....BS BS BS. Only told him that for it to get back to me, he is so low down, putting my grandson in the middle, what does he think he is going to think of him. He just doesn't have any respect or a conscience anymore. Thank you guys for everything I really do appreciate it and will drop a line in a couple days. I have an appointment with my lawyer next week. His lawyer has sent a couple letters and she is really nasty.
I cannot beleive this has gone as far as it has and he has stooped so low.

Bonnie, I just want you to know I am praying for you, that God will lift you above this and keep His hand on you and work it out for you because you put your trust in Him.

I also pray God will convict your hubby of his actions and keep him awake at night making him
look at what he has done. That he will make things right and not do any more damage then he already has..

I am really sorry you have gone through this..your married longer then i was by 10 years..we were married 40 and it was tough..but
remember mine died after he completed all the things he did..to me..he ended up with stage 4 cancer after me nursing him for most of our married life because of ms..so we just never know what will happen..i did not wish it on him..and
I felt so bad for him..but still he continued with my sons help to stick the knife in my back..
I wanted to beleive it wasn't him..deniel..but then we come to have to accept that if it wasn't they would be beside us...

God bless you and keep you through this turmoil.
remember to get what you NEED to make it in life,
you earned your share and more by being home taking care of family..THAT WAS YOUR JOB..
you deserve to be taken care of..God bless..
EarthAngel

just to bump this up.......

How are you? We've missed you.

Sorry guys I haven't replied lately, I want things to be better and try to keep myself busy but my mind just cannot shake the jerk, then I stop and think what he has done and wonder why do I even think about him????? Than I wish he had done this 25 or 30 years ago (who knows, maybe he was fooling around then too.) There were times when I used to wonder about him, but didn't think he was really that stupid, but the last few years I really did trust him......and look where it got me.....I just cannot wonder what goes through his head. The worst is that he will not talk to me, I just wish he would give me an explanation. He has twisted everything around now, and tells that I abandoned him, took all his money and maxed out his credit cards. I think he lies so much he has convinced himself. I have not seen or talked to him for over two months, and he could care less.

If this third party was not interfering this would not be going on, neither of my daughters want to talk to him because everytime they talk to him he just goes on about me, they know what I have put up with and everything he is doing is everything he has always been against. If someone else had been doing what he is doing he would have condemned them to the high heavens and considered her the scum of the earth...and there he is.

Youngest daughter told him he should be ashamed of himself, his reply was why, I haven't done anything wrong?????????Maybe he really has lost all his good sense (obviously).

My lawyer said he was wimpy, in fact a wimp. I was a little upset with my lawyer last time, and evidently after I left he must have had to go back to them and had a confrontation (the OW was there) that is why he suggested I go out the other way. He (my lawyer) said he(H) was a wimp, and her lawyer was a dog, and the OW will not be there if we have to go to mediation. OW is a mouthy B...., couple times she has gotten into confrontations with someone and they say she is so pushy and loud she does not care just so she gets her way. I keep remembering she is a pro, and he just sets there like a bump on the log, really disgusting.

I am hanging in there, have good days and bad days, I told the lawyer not to schedule any court days during November and December...birthdays and Thanksgiving in November and Christmas coming. He ruined it last year, he is not this year. I am sure she is pushing him for divorce and she is the one that does the talking when they go to his lawyer (her ex-lawyer). Like everyone tells me, don't give in and keep your head high. Her game is to try to beat me down and I will get disgusted and tell them to take what they want and get out of my life, maybe I'll hang in there and be a thorn in their side.....smile.
I really do appreciate everyones kind words and thank you so much, just talking helps...
<<<<<<<<<<<<<<HUGS TO EVERYONE OF YOU>>>>>>>>>>>>

It's so good to see this strength in you. I know it's rough. Your friends are right. The important thing here is to walk away from this ON YOUR TERMS with your head held high.

Please excuse the example but it seems your H and the OW were made for each based upon the actions and how they treat people. You'll be free of them soon. As Tennessee Williams said in the Long Hot Summer, maybe he needs to be hit a couple of times with a 2X4 to get his attention....You're shining personality is blinding him.

Have a great weekend. I'm glad your daughters can see this for what it is and support you at this time.


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I believe you should continue to force a resolution of finances. If you have to go to meadiation, and she can't be there, you may get a chance to say some of the things that you want to get said.

For your self - if you would still like to wait and see what he does, then wait. By now, many of us may just want to get a way from something like that, and have nothing to do with him, but you have a long history to think about.

If you do want out, then make some plans for yourself, dream some dreams, and then live them. A neighbour of mine just passed away this week, He was 90 years old. I believe the last 20 years were some of his best years. There is no reason why you can't be happy and enjoy your future. Please don't give him power to take happiness away from you.

When I say these things, I realize that it takes a while to get over the shock, but I believe you can do that and still have many happy years. Make some plans, make good ones, and live them well.

SS