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Re: Who was the OP?
#428917 06/09/03 01:35 PM
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I don't know if anyone else went through this, but in my case there were 2 OWs and one of them didn't even exist!

When I had proof that there was someone else, my H made up a long and elaborate story about who this woman was (name, children, where she lived, how they met, you name it) in order to protect the real OW's job. It was a bartender in the restaraunt he managed, so he knew there was a possibility they would both get canned if anyone ever found out.

I found out the night before our son was born.

Such is life. If it hadn't been her, it would have been someone else. I gave up a long time ago on assuming there was something special about THAT particular woman.

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Re: Who was the OP?
#428918 06/09/03 01:58 PM
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OW#1, WAS a co-worker and friend of us both
OW#2, IS still a co-worker, whom I do not know. But I have seen her.
Re: Who was the OP?
#428919 06/09/03 02:05 PM
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OW was someone H met on the internet in a yahoo chat room. A was initially EA, then after phonecalls and meeting twice - it was a very intense EA/PA - but short lived. She lives in Minnesota and you can guess where we are.
Re: Who was the OP?
#428920 06/09/03 02:32 PM
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OW was a "good friend" - the wife of a couple we were very close with, as were our children. We did everything together; I just didn't know what everything included! Her H discovered what was going on and disclosed to me. He and I are still in regular e-mail contact; we are allies, keeping each other up-to-date, trying to get through this awful nightmare that our spouses created.

Me - BS (Female, 45)
WH - 51
2 kids (D-13, S-10)
6 mo. A with wife of a couple we were very friendly with
D-Day - 1/2/03 (her husband found out and revealed it to me)
WH in limited contact w/ OW since
WH now feels he needs &#8220;space&#8221; but has finally agreed to MC
Re: Who was the OP?
#428921 07/15/03 01:04 PM
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a woman he met in A.A. married 28 yrs.started A 12/02 d-day 4/09/03 n/c-5/20/03. de
Re: Who was the OP?
#428922 07/15/03 04:10 PM
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part time CO-worker family friends of hers not mine.
Re: Who was the OP?
#428923 07/15/03 07:49 PM
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Co-worker. Both military, in the same office, working 14-16 hr days together and taking smoke breaks together. They'd never discussed feelings about eachother, she invited him to her dorm room on base (under the pretense of dropping off a music cd) where everything took place. It happened 3 times. Had he not confessed, I would've never known anything. I truly believe she sought him out and he just went with it out of stupidity and his own unhappiness with his job and my depression at the time. I mean, you've got this young girl there, pretty, has a common interest, and is always complimenting you and telling you how smart and great you are, etc. How could you not succomb to that???

I told him (JOKINGLY!!) next time I was going to recover Lorena Bobbit style <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> .
Re: Who was the OP?
#428924 07/15/03 08:16 PM
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one OW was someone attending same seminar as WH.

Second OW was someone WH sat next too on plane during business trip.

Third OW was a woman WH met at a bar while on business trip to Columbia.

I have a feeling there are others but WH refuses to discuss that possibility and maintains that there are only 3. He has lied and denied things before to spare me the pain. So I have no idea really how many.
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