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So I get an email today stating that #1 my H hates MY children and has said so many negative things about them, #2 HIS children hate me and #3 he's still cheating on me.
I finally decided not to check my hotmail account anymore - I don't really need it - in hopes that I won't look at it but for some reason I'm having the hardest time not checking the emails or her away messages on her AIM. Have I mentioned that she's putting negative comments about me and my H on her away messages on her AIM? I know her screen name so it's hard for me not to check it on a daily basis when I have access to it.
In her email to me today she informed me that she told the girl who's pregnant by him now that it would be useless to contact his CO (he's military) because the military wouldn't do anything about it anyways. That's not true, right? Wouldn't his commander get in his butt and couldn't his career be in jeopardy if he's fooling around on me and in turn, got someone pregnant?
How in the world can I find out who the girl is? I'm curious if there is one. She won't give me the name. My H says there is no such girl and she's just wanting to start problems but I'm so scared. I haven't been able to sleep/eat.. or function on a normal basis. I've lost 16 lbs so far in just a little over a weeks time.
What would any of you do in this situation? Ignore the comments no matter how hard? IM her/email her back? Continue working on my marriage before my craziness puts an end to it? I'm totally lost here and have no clue what to do. I'm stressed out and just can't figure anythng out. Whats the truth..whats a lie?
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desiree -
Stop reading her messages. It is useless and hurtful. She undoubtedly wants to cause problems in your marriage.
Start working on your marriage. Read all about Plan A in this forum under the thread "General Questions for all New Builders".
Then start taking care of yourself. It is miserable going through this, but you don't want to end up sick. Many of us have been through the same thing, and will help and support you.
You need to calm down and work on your marriage.
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Desiree,
I second believer's sentiment. Why are you even reading her drivel? Block her so you don't ever see any more emails from her. Quit checking her IM away message (can you block her from your IM, too, so you can't see her message?)
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yes, quit reading her messages and BLOCK her. She wants to hurt you and is succeeding everytime you read them
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