I've been reading SAA and trying to put together Plan A. I'm at a crossroad right now and don't know if I'm able to cross it. I've confronted my husband about the affair but since confronting him, he has never told me straight that he has broken all communication with the OW - so I'm assuming that he's still talking to her in some way. I did talk to him today and told him that we needed to talk about where we stood - he tells me that he knows, but isn't willing to sit down with me. I told him that I had this weekend free to talk about us, and he asked if we could talk about this later in the week. I feel as this was a demand on my part, but I really want to know where he and I stand. I need to know whether or not he wants to reconcile. I did remind him that in past conversations if he wanted a divorce all he needed to do was tell me - I guess I need to stop telling him that. He told me back in April '04 that he wanted a divorce, but he hasn't done anything to further it. I do love my husband but I don't think he's made the decision to seperate from the OW completely. **Currently my husband and I live 3.5 hours apart due to our careers, but I am willingly to move where he is. He doesn't want me up there right now because he doesn't know what he wants for the future of our relationship.** I'm just so tired and confused -I love him, but can't imagine living my life in a world of confusion. All I want is to begin a new life with him - am I stupid to want this?

Yikes. Well, I'm not well-versed enough with the Plans to give really good advise, but it seems to me that there's NO chance while he's still communication with the OW.

Maybe you can pose your question in the General Questions forum...they get more traffic.

C