This is the first of my exposure efforts. My husband was asked to leave our home on January 10 after a verbal assault on my children. The verbal abuse in our home had escalated over the previous months and this was the last straw.

In the first couple of days that he was out he searched on roommatelocator.com and found a woman who was looking for a male roommate. When he called her she invited him to come over and bring a bottle of wine.

Steve has, in the past, visited prostitutes, had affairs, and alcohol is the identified substance of choice with which he gives himself permission to cheat.

He tried to tell me, when I confronted him about the purchase, that he had only visited with her for a couple of hours. I asked for her number and he "didn't have it." I gave him the option to drive to work to get it (at 11pm) or have me expose all of his sordid past to his boss on Monday morning.

He suddenly "remembered" that I could find her on the same site.

I asked him repeatedly if he had sex with her and he denied it over and over again. Even when I had her number and put him on hold to call her.

She confirmed that he did come there, that they shared a bottle of wine (that he bought) and that they HAD SEX!

I have said since d-day 1 that if he cheated on me again I would expose to everyone I know.

SO HERE IS MY EXPOSURE

My husband

CHEATED ON ME WITH A *******STRANGER THAT HE ONLY KNEW FOR A COUPLE OF HOURS.

<small>[ January 30, 2005, 09:57 AM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

cerri... I am so sorry to hear of this. You did the right thing in showing you mean what you preach. Good for you. He will too suffer for what he has done..... prayers for you and lots of hugs. Maxlo

cerri,

Unbelievable (((((((((((((cerri)))))))))))))))

You know you have tons of support, and what you need to do. Forge ahead with faith and determination, and we'll support you all the way!

Best wishes
SD

i know how you feel...i caught cindy fooling around and my life is shattered....i dont advocate public disclosure as you are setting yourself up for major liability issues...WHAT IF the woman was lying...i believe her disclosure to you is truthful but why take the chance to put yourself in liability's way

Cerri,

I sent you an email. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.

When did this exposure occur?

And is he NUTS?

Alright - we have an agreement about extreme protection and accountability/conditions for now. I'm leaving the door open for the marriage but there are no guarantees.

As part of the agreement I took his name and personal information off my original post.

The woman did not lie - he confirmed it later.

Cerri,

I am so sorry. What a blow. I don't know your whole story, but I do know that you are deeply respected on MB and I hate to see you going through this torture. Is there any way that your H would consider going to The Mankind Project's New Warrior Training? It's a weekend retreat where men help other men become men of integrity. It's an excellent process. Almost every man who goes through it is dumbfounded by the experience. It's truly life-changing. It is sometimes a last resort...maybe it's time.

{{{{{{{{{Cerri}}}}}}}}}

Stillwed

Double post.

<small>[ January 31, 2005, 12:41 AM: Message edited by: stillwed ]</small>

Please send me info on the program. My email is in my sig line. Update at GQII. Still haven't slept - not all that coherent right now.

C

Cerri,

I am very sorry that this has happened to you again.

Penny,

Go to bed.. Get some sleep and take care of yourself. I promise we will all still be here tomorrow <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Oh Cerri,

Not you...I wish you did not have to go through this. You've already been through so much.

{{{{{{{Cerri}}}}}}}}}}

We're with you every step of the way.

<small>[ January 31, 2005, 05:12 PM: Message edited by: SAB ]</small>

Cerri

Just in case you are still checking this thread .... you have many people here holding you in their hearts and prayers.

Cerri has a thread going on over at her own site as well, I realize, but in case she comes back, I just wanted to come out posting retirement to show my support and concern for her right now.

Cerri was a sage to me and so many others when we were in need, in fact, I am sure she has SAVED LIVES, some of you right here on this board. I hope Cerri knows that she has all the love and support of more people than she ever knows.

Cerri, I hope you'll continue to post either here or at your site and talk to us, and let us listen and help you through this difficult time as you were there for so many of us.

Thank you Cerri, for all you have done, and I am SO SORRY to hear that this had to happen to you.

We're all here for you. Every one of us.

ALS

I am so sorry to read this!

You have supported a numerous amount of people here on MB and I hate to read that you are going through this again! Having the knowledge that you do now, how do you feel about this again? Besides exposure, what is your plan?

Ali

When I started reading this post, the thought "This can't be the same cerri" kept going through my mind, until I reached the end and read that it is the cerri that is a coach, whom I had a few sessions with.

This proves that absolutely KNOWONE is immune to affairs and no matter WHO you are an affair absolutely knocks you off your feet.

Cerri, stay strong. My heart breaks for you, with you.

Dear Cerri,

Darn, and rats! I'm so sorry. I only know you through your posts here. You deserve so much better.

Cerri,

I spent years with the Airborne Regiment, and it gave me ONE clear perspective on life. I have always held the HIGHEST respect for those who honorably shoulder a fight even when it seems unwinable.

You are well above the average my friend.

I want to share a poem with you that has circulated the SF community for years. It gave me strength in my times of great need. May it give you the same comfort.

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"It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by the dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions and spends himself in a worthy course; who at the best, knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who, at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly; so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory or defeat."


THEODORE ROOSEVELT
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<small>[ February 05, 2005, 12:40 AM: Message edited by: sprint ]</small>

Sprint,

What a beautiful gift you give this forum with your quote!

Very kind of you; I hope Cerri sees it! Blessings, CSue