Hey Ali,

What's going on?

Very scared that is what's going on! Randy still tries to show affection towards me and acts clueless when I don't return it back. Even a peck on the check makes me want to crawl. This morning he came into the room because that is where he still showers and gets dressed and kissed me several times. I did not respond towards him. He made a comment that he should just move out! Hummm, now were talking.
Going back to yesterday, I was at the barn trying to help my friend sell her horse (who I am becoming very attached too (the horse that it) I was there for about 4 1/2 hours. When I came home he was puzzled about my attitude and my nonschlantness and said what could he do to make this marriage better? Ginger does this sound familiar? Snickering to myself inside, I said you will have to change your whole attitude, go get help, get on meds, kiss my butt for at least six months, read His Needs/Her Needs. Then when done with it, read it again.
He asked me why I cannot kiss him anymore. I said; "Because I cannot trust you!" I let down my guard and you emotionally beat me up!
Anyway, that is where I stand. I feel that this is a virus and I am just waiting it out! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
I guess I am very afraid!

Ali~

what could he do to make this marriage better? ...I said you will have to change your whole attitude, go get help, get on meds, kiss my butt for at least six months, read His Needs/Her Needs. Then when done with it, read it again.

When does he get started? This I gotta see. This ought to be interesting <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> .

Yes, my H did this with me everytime I pulled away. He would say "We're done." but still except to have all the perks of marriage. When I would turn the tables on him, suddenly he would try to draw me closer physically and emotionally. Even now, it's amazing how much he is doing. He's asked me to remarry him. I told him I'm having thoughts of separation. Carolkh was right when she said that when 0the WS has the feeling that they are losing you, they start to pursue you. This is what I see happening here.

If he did what you wanted and needed to be done to have a good marriage, would you be interested?