WH moved some of his things back on Sunday. He still has things at the apt. He told me it was over between him and OP. He told me he wanted to read the SAA book. he would sever contact with her and we would sit down and write a no contact letter. WH even went so far as to tell my best friend when she had called on Sunday that he needed time to sort out all of the probs he was having before he came home to me and was wanting to fix our marriage! Since then, he is distant(but showing signs of his old self), hasn't touched the book and has answered calls from OP. He will not discuss anything regarding our relationship and when I ask him he gets pissed. I ask him about about reading the book and the no contact letter and I am met with anger and now he won't even initiate any physical contact. Making love is now a memory where as before during plan A<BR>it did happen. He is curt rude and nasty now with me. What on earth did I do NOW??? I also am not trusting anything that he says and find myself checking on him constantly. If I ask him if OP calls, he is honest with me but when I remind him about the no contact agreement, he gets upset. <BR>I see shades of my old husband but then he spins around, and its someone else I don't recognize.<BR>I am at a loss to what to do at this point. Any help out there ?

It sounds like <B>withdrawal</B>...<BR>(like that from drugs or alcohol)...<BR>...and it can last for a while!<P>Continue with Plan A...<BR>...and just be honest to him about your feelings.<P> <P>Jim

Thanks Jim. <BR>How are YOU doing? I hope well. This nightmare has been harder on me than when my dad passed away here with us in 96. At least when my dad was ill, I knew the final outcome. OP is calling him from gas stations and various locations. As soon as she hears me she hangs up. Funny, now that she can't call from school anymore, I get no hangups from the hours of 7:30 to 2:30. 2:35 and thats when the crap starts. I usually try and get WH to go get the kids from school during that time but, not every day.The worst part of this is I feel like a doormat/nutcase. I shower H with attention fit for a king and do whatever I ppossibly can at work for him and I am getting nothng back in return. Its taking a toll on the girls too. Not to mention my house has huge dustbunnies and in need of a good cleaning. As far as a counselor, I will be trying to find someone today. Since I pay over 600/month for insurance, I'll just have to use someone the insurance recommends(they won't reimburse me for Dr. Harley). <sigh> I guess its 1 day at a time. Try to do my best and be a stronger woman for me and the girls. Hopefully someday our marriage will be what it used to be. Loving, caring and best friends.<BR>