hi, please see my string under Just Found Out from a week ago. Am not sure how to attach this.

Since D-day which was a week and a 1/2 ago we've been to MC, he's cut off all ties with the OW. I believe him b/c have been watching him and he has told me he wants to work on our marriage. But he still has anger towards me b/c of months of me ignoring his ENs and my negative attitude. Said he needs to resolve that. We've still been having really good sex, so there's that connection but I am initiating any hugging or saying I love you, that kind of thing. It makes me really sad. I don't believe he is in a FOG anymore, that it has already lifted and he is no longer mourning her. He just does not want to show any affection toward me, maybe he's retaliating. If that is the case, isn't having an affair enough retaliation? I was turning over a new leaf even before D-day but he is like not seeing this because he is so stuck on the past. That I wasn't there for him emotionally. Yeah I hurt him, but he hurt me tenfold. It is our anniversary on Sunday and I suggested we renew our vows. He wasn't very excited about that idea, saying he needs time and to please be patient.

I've printed off questionnaires and other info from the MB website and he hasn't looked at it yet. What can I do to get him involved in repairing our marriage? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Sad,

I really feel what you are going through! I have been trying to get my FWW to start reconciling for over two years now (over 1 1/2 since her PA). WS's just won't begin until they want to. You can urge them on, leave hints, yell and scream, beg...till you're blue in the face but they will not budge on the issue until they feel the need to. It is utterly sad and unfair what BS's have to go through in all of this from the affair till reconciliation. That's why we must decide if the preservation of our M is worth it. This is where the plan A comes in. Do all you can for your WS with as little LBing as possible. It's a long hard road and can be very discouraging at times but all things can work out. Best of luck to you.

jetes