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what is that-where is an example? more help please........we are ready to go dark but how do we start?
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thanks Topie-much love and peace to you for reaching out to me.
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A suggestion -
If you post your Plan B letter here first, the more experienced posters can help you fine tune it before sending it.
They usually advise to keep it short.
Good luck.
And once you start Plan B - stick to it.
I made the mistake of prematurely ending Plan B for false recoveries (promises from WH that he never planned to follow through on).
<small>[ June 02, 2004, 09:34 AM: Message edited by: meremortal ]</small>
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what is that-where is an example? more help please
If you do not know what a Plan B letter is, you NEED to read "Surviving An Affair". Use the example in the book.
we are ready to go dark but how do we start
We? Plan B is not a "team" plan.
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hi Chris- by we I mean me and sons. if WH has sons- thats all he needs. they are grown up and are now abandoned. we told them they could live here and pay their own way- tuition etc and save to start their future on a stronger footing. we have a very tight unique way- and now WH has taken it all away. they feel betrayed- they are betrayed -and you cannot forget that WH is choosing at this time to live with another MOW and her young daughter. so B has to be all of us. me and sons. any more thoughts with that information? thanks
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hi Chris- by we I mean me and sons.
If they are going to do something similar, then they need to do it completely by themselves.
Do not make it a joint effort between you & them for a couple of reasons.
1- Plan B is about the marriage. This is strictly between you & your husband.
2 - They are his kids and now YOU are getting between them (I know not this is not what you are doing but in reality you are getting between them)
But by all means, tell them what you are doing and why.
If they want to do the same type of thing, it is their preogative, but you should not encourage/push them to do it.
so B has to be all of us
Again, it does not HAVE to be and should not be about anyone except you & h.
Have you read "Surviving An Affair" by Dr WIllard Harley?
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