Well, he made his decision. He got an apartment last night and will be leaving shortly. Just as my daughter is going back to college and school is ready to start. He told me he loved me as he walked out the door. I suppose I will continue to give him love and attention while he is home,but what about after he leaves? He said he will come back to work on the house on Saturdays to fix it up so we can sell it. Do I still do plan A or B? Is there any use doing anything? Do they come back after they leave? I know I still love him ,but I don't like him very much. This relationship has not brought out the best in him. He continues to still sneak and lie about things. She is fifteen years younger, broke up her marriage to an alchoholic and has one child. My H has been miserable since he started his affair in spring of '98. He is now trying to rewrite the history of our marriage and say it hasn't been good in seven years. Anyone out there, how do I go on and what happens next?

Ah shucks I don't have any advice to you-sure wish I did. But here's a hug just to get you through the day and to let you know that a stranger cares. Hang in there!!<P>{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{NOEL}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Noel - I am so sorry - I know how awful this feels. Has H actually asked you for a divorce? Although it isn't easy right now, you do need to look at the practical, financial stuff and figure out how to best protect yourself no matter what H ends up doing. This might mean consulting with a lawyer because once they "move out" this is considered a legal "separation date" and changes how courts would eventually look at financial responsibilities.<P>Noel - I am sorry I cannot offer any good Plan A/B advice because I am at the moving on point. Others here will be able to do this for you very well. Just remember that whatever your decision, you have given this relationship your all and do not have to regret not having tried your hardest.<P>Hugs,<BR>Starpony

thanks heartache and starpony, I can really use those hugs. I just got an appointment with Dr. Harley. Hope its not to late.