My husband and I are having a conflict based on his relationship with a widow. I left him because of it and he is so committed to taking care of her and her kids that he refuses to stop. He promised her dying husband that he would take care of them. I am at a complete loss. He says he is very much in love with me but he will not give on this I need help.

KATHYPO... You seem to be in the same position I find myself; experiencing the hurt of having your partner in life put someone else over and above you and your needs... Not to make light of it, but your story does remind me of a old movie I saw recently, "Butterfield 8"... Gloria, the hooker, had a platonic friend who had a girlfriend who, in turn, was not thrilled with this friendship. She issued the "me or her" ultimatum, and he, like your husband, answered, "I love you, but I must take care of her..." She, surprising, ended up supporting him in this, thereby winning his undying love and gratitude (and getting a marriage proposal to boot). Gloria conveniently died in a car crash, so they didn't actually have to deal with her, but I found it interesting how that worked like a charm... I try to do the same in my sit, but can't seem to pull it off... I sympathize and will interested to see what advice you get; good luck!