Sex is important to men. For me, it is my most important EN, so if there are problems in the marriage resulting in lack of sex, then it's very hard for me to stay positive.<p>One of the few biblically justified reasons for divorce is when one partner denies the other sex.<p>
Now with that said, it seems that you have some real issues regarding this topic. Earlier in your marriage were you able to provide for your husband and satisfy him on this front? If so, what's changed recently (or not so recently) that's made your husband feel that he's not satisfied in this department?<p>Sometimes when men don't meet their wives EN, the wives don't meet the husband's and it becomes a quick downward spiral until one partner gives in.<p>
You've said that you are depressed. If that's true, a doctor CAN help you! I had a grandmother who was bi-polar and I saw first hand what a nut she was. I attributed some of that "nuttyness" to her psychotropic medications. For me, they held a real stigma not only socially, but directly through my experience with her.<p>My wife is an MD and suggested to me that I have a very good chance of being a canidate for medication. She noticed that I was moody (not getting manic, but moody), often sullen, and very often I would choose to socially isolate myself. I've always been this way and I've never had a problem functioning in a job.<p>I would not take depression medication until she left and made her point that way.<p>
I'm on "Zoloft" now. I ASSURE you, it is NOT addictive, not ABUSEABLE, and won't turn you into someone that you're not. It's not like valium or any type of sediative... Technically, it's an SSRI (selective seratonin reuptake inhibitor) if that means anything to you.. In the last few years drug companies have made great strides in the quality of SSRIs and MOA inhibitors.. <p>I'd suggest you talk with your doc. If you have a REAL chemical imbalance, they can drastically improve your quality of life.<p>I'm sure your husband is frustrated and doesn't understand.. I'd suggest counseling if he'll agree.. <p>
Both things, can improve your life drastically! What do you have to lose?<p>-d