MY SITUATION GOES AS FOLLOWS,
IVE BEEN MARRIED LESS THAN 1YR., ON NOV 13, I FOUND OUT THAT MY HUSBAND WAS HAVING AN AFFAIR, I APPROACHED HIM ABOUT IT AND HE TOLD ME THAT HE WAS JUST USING HER 4 WHATEVER REASONS.

WELL BEING THAT I FOUND OUT ABOUT IT I THOUGHT IT HAD STOPPED IMEDIATELY, BUT OBVIOUSLY NOT I RAN ACROSS THIS FEMALES NUMBER AGAIN RECENTLY AND DECIDED 2 GIVE HER A CALL SHE SAID THAT SHE WAS STILL WITH HIM AND THAT HE WAS JUST AT HER HOUSE, AND THAT HE SAY THAT HE WANT 2 BE WITH HER. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

IT HURTS CAUSE I KNOW THAT SHE IS NOT LYING, SHE KNOWS 2 MUCH OF MY PERSONAL BUSINESS. HE DENIES IT ALL OF COURSE, AND 2 BE HONEST, EVEN THOUGH I KNOW HES LYING, I STILL WANNA BELEIVE HIM.
SO WHAT DO I DO KNOW, CAUSE I NEED ANSWERS, HELP, AND COULD REALLY USE A GOOD FRIEND RIGHT NOW.... <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

SO IF ANYONE OUT THERE KNOWS WHAT IM GOING THREW
PLEASE REACH OUT 2 ME I DESPERATE, AND BORDER LINING SUICIDE <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

In October you wrote that your H is physically and emotionally abusive.

THIS is his character. He's not a very nice guy.

Being "desperate" makes you accept poor treatment.

Suicidal thoughts means you would like to "kill the pain" you're feeling. The problem is, you don't need to kill yourself to get relief from the pain.

You need to call someone in your community to get mental health help. Is there a woman's shelter near you?

worried .... Pepper

hi there pep, <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
no there is no womens shelter in my area that i know of, but i am really starting to get desperate, im lost and confused, scared and alone...., im so sick of crying and hurting <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

KYTEDREAMZ,
Although, I do not have any great words of wisdom for your problems, suicide is a long term solution for a short term problem.

I suggest you reach out to someone beyond this message board and get some help.

Is there any where you can turn, friends, family, counsellor, to find yourself and get yourself back on your feet.

You need to regain control of the situation. Right now you need to take care of yourself and reach out to someone close to you that may be able to help. Have you talked to your doctor?

I was in a much different situation with my wife but had many of the same thoughts you have. I was able to get through them with the help of this group here.

Please keep your chin up and suicide is not the answer. You have so much to live for - I know now you don't feel that way but I can tell you will get through this and be a better person because of it.

NOT givenuphope

You can call me...I have some very recent experience.
Email me at fdonovan@san.rr.com and if you provide your number, I will phone you.

Fran

stunned, <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
how are u? thanks 4 your response, my situation has actually gotten worse and im past desperate, why cant i just leave? why is it so hard to let go? i am so not myself right now,i cant even claim my identity because i dont even know who i am anymore. who am i? how did i allow this man to gain control of my life? and why is it so hard to get it back. and when i think about leaving, i come to realize that i dont know how.i try to get help but everyone is either to busy or could care less, and i really need help bad <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

SUICIDE IS NOT THE ANSWER, AND BESIDES, IT'S SELFISH, YOUR PASSING YOUR HURT ON TO OTHER PEOPLE (FAMILY/FRIENDS) IF YOU DO ANYTHING TO HURT YOURSELF, IT GIVES OFF VIBES THAT YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT HURTING THE ONES LEFT BEHIND!!!!
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Stunned,
Ive been trying to reach u, my cell is off but if u can email me @ kytedreamztoo@yahoo.com or aol instant mesg. KYtedreamz2. Hope to hear from you soon....... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />