I tried to post this message earlier but everything locked up, if it gets repeated, Sorry.<p>Ok, this is going to be a little graphic, i will try to be good
<p>From the little you have told me It sounds like performance anxiety so i have a suggestion tha i think no man can resist (it works for me)<br>First, my first sexual encounter was a disater. I was young and diddnt perform very well, the girl i was with made fun of me and said that I could never please any woman.<br>Well, it was a while before i ventured into the bedroom again with another woman and this time it was what the woman done for me that made the world of difference.<p>First, it was the same, i only wanted to be masturbated (i already knew how to do that and was comfortable with that)<br>She understood why i was that way, scared to sleep with her so she started acting for me.<br>While she was "using her hands" she had her head close to my ear. She started to groan quietly and seductivly. Then she slowly moved her leg up and down against mine and before i knew it she had slid on top of me (still using her hands)<br>I tried to get her off but still whispering in my ear she said "shhhh, i am going to give you something you are going to like a lot more than this, just close your eyes and relax, it's ok, dont worry about anything" ( I will always remember those words
)<br>She started making love to me while still making slight moans (mmmm's and ooh's)<br>In my mind i was petrified that i wasnt going to be any good and that she was going to leave me because of it, but the noises she made sounded as if i was doing OK.<br>She then started talking to me about how good it felt and just made the mood so loving and gentle.<br>She diddnt make any requests from me like touching her anywhere or moving anyway, she told me that i shouldnt try to pleasure her, this was just for me. She just wanted me to lay there and be comfortable.<br>It wasnt long before she told me that she was... um... "going to climax VERY soon"
<br>She was faking it but i diddnt know at the time, she just wanted me to have the best experience she could give me.<br>As i reached my peak she got excited and...um... audiobly made her pleasure known. <br>After we were both done she layed next to me and held me for a while, she said that it had never been like that, it was so good, giving me sweet kisses, etc, You know, all the mushy stuff.<br>She made me feel that i did good that night and exitedly told me that she couldnt wait to do that again. It was NOTHING like my first time, now i felt wanted and loved with no pressure for reciprocation and couldnt wait for the next time).<br>I took it upon myself from then to learn EVERYTHING i could about the female body so i can be better in bed and take much enjoyment in pleasuring my mate (some say i am oversexed now)<br>This helped for me and if you set the mood right like "V" said, low lighing, music etc. I would change the lengerie to be nothing at all or something that wont hinder you when you decide to....um..... mount him (i am trying to not be graphic really i am)<br>Find out if there is a certain fabric that feels good to him, i personally like something satin that feels soft and smooth, that will just heighten his arousal.<p>Remember, make it HIS night, no demands, no requests of your own, no pressure.<br>If it is performance anxiety he has then let him believe he is the best lover in the world (but dont go overboard)<p>If a man believes that he has made a woman climax through intercourse then that will just make it a whole lot better (there arent many women in the world that can do that and it is a good feeling to know that you can bring that out in a woman)<br>If you are not sure how to fake it and not let him know then kegals are an excellent way to fool any man (that is how we really know if you are faking it or not)<br>Do you know what Kegals are? I am sure you do but incase you dont, Kegal excersizes are what you do to tone your PC muscle, it is the same muscle you use to stop urine flow when you pee. <br>Doing Kegals the same time you visually and audiobly express your climax can easily fool any man into believing it is the real thing
<br>Sorry guys if i gave away the secret
<p>I am sorry if this post has been too graphic for many people,unfortuneatly, i couldnt think of another way to describe the experience and the actions my lover done to help me.<br>i am not sure if they will allow it to be posted but if it is then i hope you can get something good out of it.<p>One other thing, reassuring him, telling him that you love him for what he is, and being ok to make mistakes, in my personal opinion wouldnt be the best idea.<br>He may already think he is no good and by saying that stuff he might think you have already formed your own opinions about his performance and will only make it worse.<p>Mark